:1784913055,7618252, I recently joined and it has honestly been an exhausting experience compared to using FetLife. Dealt with more scammers in the past few weeks than I have at any other point in my life. The only thing that gives me hope is that I have talked to a couple Read more… genuine people on here that I enjoy talking to.

Scammers gonna scam. The site can only know about them by our reports, so it's inevitable that you will be contacted by a scammer who hasn't yet come to the attention of the admins and been asked to verify. It can take longer for that than I would like - I reported someone several days ago and haven't even received an acknowledgement of the report. I *** they're just overloaded. I've asked for changes to the reporting system that would make it easier to point them to the source of a stolen photo rather than just telling them they should take a look at the photo, with no clue as to what the reporter found wrong with it.

:1783515137,3446205, I'm really struggling with it all, hardly had any conversations, nobody replies, just ghosts me. I just don't know where to find a genuine female domme.

You do have to deal with the fact that it is definitely a Read more… buyer's market, so to speak. There are far more het male subs than female doms. I've had decent luck finding kinky or at least kink-receptive women in vanilla settings, women who would never be on this site.

I consider myself a bottom rather than a psychological submissive, but there was one woman to whom I truly submitted. It was a combination of intelligence and confidence (and the British accent helped as well). Not to boast, just to explain, I am exceptionally intelligent. While I don't need it for Read more… top/bottom play, I can only truly psychologically submit to a woman whose intelligence I can respect.

There are genuine women here - I have a relationship with a local woman I met through the site - but yes, there are a lot of fakes. And the site sometimes fails to act on reports of fake profiles. I interacted with an allegedly DC-area woman with pictures I determined were stolen from a FB account Read more… in Texas. I even contacted the FB user to ask if she had contacted me on a "dating site," and she denied it. I reported the profile. It's still up after many months.

As for crushes failing to communicate, *** of rejection might be one reason for people to crush but not send an initial contact message. I also believe the "quick kink" feature may lead people to send "spanks" without realizing that's what happens when you tap the paddle. And someone who spanked unintentionally is less likely to respond if you message them.

It depends very much on the relationship you have with the person you're talking to, and how well you know each other. Unless you have some reason to think they will be receptive, I'd go with a "plausible deniability" approach. E.g., "I saw that in a movie last week. I thought it really looked Read more… artistic, and since then I keep thinking I'd like to try learning to do that." If the other person is also interested, they can offer to partner with you. Maybe they'd even like to switch. But if they are not interested, they can decline your not-explicitly-an-offer without things becoming awkward by simply treating it as a general statement having nothing to do with them personally.

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But in terms of your post I post nothing because there's nothing to see in my life, who wants to watch me do drywall, tile, or plumbing. Nobody. Plus its weird to watch me work.

I can guarantee you that there are Read more… kinky women out there who would love to learn to do construction, even if only to be able to work on their own homes. So don't be afraid to put your day job in your profile.

And what do you do when you're not at work? I'm now retired from my day job as a software engineer, but I am a semiprofessional cellist by night (and getting more paying gigs now that I'm retired). I have a relationship with a woman I met here whose eye was caught by my musical interests. So go ahead and put your vanilla hobbies/interests into your profile! Even if it doesn't match anything a woman reading it is interested in, it at least shows you're a three-dimensional human being, not just a horny bag of kinks.

WRT #7: Not being a celebrity, I can't get away with grabbing women by the pussy. But if I can grab 'em by the mind, the pussy will usually follow.

[Re: very beautiful women being on this site] I once had a coworker who complained about guys not asking her out. She was stunning. I told her that she may well intimidate guys into thinking that they're just not in her league, so they figure they shouldn't even bother trying. I advised her to be Read more… the one to make the first move if she saw a guy that interested her.

This is no longer a reliable indicator. People can keep their cell phone number no matter where they move in the country. It is completely possible for a person in NY to have a cell number from Los Angeles that they got when living there ten years ago, and kept because that's the number all their Read more… friends and relatives know.