:1789041198,6129420, You have a point, but don't close the door fully or you could miss out on something good, you dont want all the fishes in your tank at once or do you???

The problem frequently voiced by women is that too many male Read more… fishes jump into the tank whether wanted or not - even when there's an explicit statement about exactly which kind is wanted. Since fish - um, sorry, I mean people - have only a limited amount of time, having to do extensive research to check out each fish is also likely to miss out on something good simply due to lack of time. At the very least, the fishes that clearly identify themselves as the wanted type go to the front of the line.

BLUF: I like it.

My one suggestion is from a standpoint of literature rather than erotica. The one very small change I'd make: "The pace turns frantic" should be "Our pace turns frantic." The first paragraph is not yet settled as to who is being addressed by the writer - us, the readers, or only Read more… the writer and the writer's partner. The second paragraph plants the flag: the use of second person shows that we readers are mere voyeurs. The words are focused on the writer and the partner, not on any outsiders. The change from "The pace" to "Our pace" serves to keep consistent with that framework.

This may strike you as an odd question, but: did you conceive of this as prose or poetry?

:1788641215,6957840, Most ppl are here for kinks and for desires not here to find a good healthy relationship go to a different site if thats what ur looking for smh women cant be serious lookin for there forever here not saying it cant happen or its not there but be Read more… realistic

Even if all you're looking for is a kinky play partner, not a soulmate, it still makes sense to fill out the BDSM profile and kink interests so that the rope bunnies and riggers can more easily recognize each other, ditto the spankers and spankees, etc.

:1788712277,8015942, I am new here and tying to get my profile going. But ibam have a bit of a time navigating this app. It was not letting properly search my phone for photos. Any suggestions of ways I can improve my profile to show the reality of being a save person? I am Read more… not here to loke "live out my porn preferences" I am here to explore my sexuality with other humans who can meet me where I am at.

If you're having trouble adding a photo through the app, you might have better luck with the website version. While a photo certainly helps, you tell people much more about yourself through your words. And I see you are doing that. You have the BDSM profile filled out, and while your profile is lean, your participation in this and other discussions shows up when your profile is viewed. Showing yourself in that way to be a thoughtful person who makes constructive comments can also contribute a lot to achieving the goal.

BuT mY mAgIc PeNis WiLl MaKe YoU SeE wHaT yOu'Ve BeEn MiSsInG!

:1788642948,7195323, Or anyone who has a low response rate

Actually, when a woman whose profile has been up long enough for the stats to be valid has a low response rate, it is a positive sign for me. Scammers tend to answer at a high Read more… rate. A low response rate tells me there's a good chance she's a genuine woman who simply has standards, and it makes me more likely to message if I think there''s a chance. Yes, often my message doesn't get an answer after I see it has been read, kind of confirming my impression. But I am upfront in my profile about a common dealbreaker (existing partners), so it's not a big surprise, especially if she hasn't said anything about monogamy in her own profile. Both of us have invested a minimal amount of time discovering we're not each other's cup of spiced chai latte. That's a win-win in my book.

:1788650675,1808685, i mean to be fair ask me is as straightforward as it gets in a great way to start the conversation. What do you wanna know?
ask me is really all you need.

The way I see it, my having a detailed profile (including Read more… the possible deal-breakers up front) isn't just about respecting the time of the women reading my profile. It helps avoid wasting MY OWN time. I don't want to type in answers to the same obvious questions over and over again, nor get into conversations with women who want something I'm not, or who are something I'm not looking for. And if I get a question that's already answered in my profile, that tells me the other person didn't read it. I take that as a warning sign.

:1784913055,7618252, I recently joined and it has honestly been an exhausting experience compared to using FetLife. Dealt with more scammers in the past few weeks than I have at any other point in my life. The only thing that gives me hope is that I have talked to a couple Read more… genuine people on here that I enjoy talking to.

Scammers gonna scam. The site can only know about them by our reports, so it's inevitable that you will be contacted by a scammer who hasn't yet come to the attention of the admins and been asked to verify. It can take longer for that than I would like - I reported someone several days ago and haven't even received an acknowledgement of the report. I *** they're just overloaded. I've asked for changes to the reporting system that would make it easier to point them to the source of a stolen photo rather than just telling them they should take a look at the photo, with no clue as to what the reporter found wrong with it.

:1783515137,3446205, I'm really struggling with it all, hardly had any conversations, nobody replies, just ghosts me. I just don't know where to find a genuine female domme.

You do have to deal with the fact that it is definitely a Read more… buyer's market, so to speak. There are far more het male subs than female doms. I've had decent luck finding kinky or at least kink-receptive women in vanilla settings, women who would never be on this site.

I consider myself a bottom rather than a psychological submissive, but there was one woman to whom I truly submitted. It was a combination of intelligence and confidence (and the British accent helped as well). Not to boast, just to explain, I am exceptionally intelligent. While I don't need it for Read more… top/bottom play, I can only truly psychologically submit to a woman whose intelligence I can respect.

There are genuine women here - I have a relationship with a local woman I met through the site - but yes, there are a lot of fakes. And the site sometimes fails to act on reports of fake profiles. I interacted with an allegedly DC-area woman with pictures I determined were stolen from a FB account Read more… in Texas. I even contacted the FB user to ask if she had contacted me on a "dating site," and she denied it. I reported the profile. It's still up after many months.

As for crushes failing to communicate, *** of rejection might be one reason for people to crush but not send an initial contact message. I also believe the "quick kink" feature may lead people to send "spanks" without realizing that's what happens when you tap the paddle. And someone who spanked unintentionally is less likely to respond if you message them.

It depends very much on the relationship you have with the person you're talking to, and how well you know each other. Unless you have some reason to think they will be receptive, I'd go with a "plausible deniability" approach. E.g., "I saw that in a movie last week. I thought it really looked Read more… artistic, and since then I keep thinking I'd like to try learning to do that." If the other person is also interested, they can offer to partner with you. Maybe they'd even like to switch. But if they are not interested, they can decline your not-explicitly-an-offer without things becoming awkward by simply treating it as a general statement having nothing to do with them personally.

:1780309828,6818065,
But in terms of your post I post nothing because there's nothing to see in my life, who wants to watch me do drywall, tile, or plumbing. Nobody. Plus its weird to watch me work.

I can guarantee you that there are Read more… kinky women out there who would love to learn to do construction, even if only to be able to work on their own homes. So don't be afraid to put your day job in your profile.

And what do you do when you're not at work? I'm now retired from my day job as a software engineer, but I am a semiprofessional cellist by night (and getting more paying gigs now that I'm retired). I have a relationship with a woman I met here whose eye was caught by my musical interests. So go ahead and put your vanilla hobbies/interests into your profile! Even if it doesn't match anything a woman reading it is interested in, it at least shows you're a three-dimensional human being, not just a horny bag of kinks.

WRT #7: Not being a celebrity, I can't get away with grabbing women by the pussy. But if I can grab 'em by the mind, the pussy will usually follow.