The only type of porn that's ever interested me has been BDSM & related. I never really found vanilla/"straightforward" porn intriguing, but usually get great arousal from BDSM content.

I should also mention that I started my sex life at a pretty late age.

At the moment I find it tricky to Read more…get aroused by my partner when we have sex.

At first I thought it could be because I inadvertently conditioned myself to only be aroused by BDSM content. When we are intimate, I often find my mind racing to whatever BDSM scenario is at hand in my imagination, and that's what gets me hard.

I have to say that the scenarios I imagine don't really feature me at all, they are more like movie scenes. It's not a cuckold situation, I simply don't exist in these scenarios.

Anyway, after more introspection, I started thinking that maybe I have a low libido. I do find myself aroused by women very often, but I never feel the need/urge to fuck them. Like with my partner, I do find her attractive, but when were intimate, for me it's not really exciting or something I look forward to.

Has anyone had similar experiences? Does anyone know what's up?

I wanna keep this text brief, but happy to give more details if anyone has any specific questions.

Thanks!