I'm an engineer so my mind tends to compartmentalise things anyway, so at work, in meetings out and about, I'm me the engineer, father, provider, protector, but behind closed doors, in a scene, I'm a subby p@in slut, until the moment I'm not again. Sorry if that doesn't help, I have know people Read more… that use tokens such as cuffs or collars or even just certain clothes that signify the change find what works for you and you will find the strength that allows you to submit makes your RL dominant side stronger more confidant.

Sounds like he had an image of you as an "equal" when he thought of you as a Dom but but as soon told him your truth he swung to far the other way and rewrote your history as meaning you must already be his, as someone who works and in vanilla public life projects a Dom exterior I've had the same Read more… issues when people find my kink nature is submissive.

Friend from college invited me to her 20th, she had been low-key doming me since we met, go there and found her and 5 friends and that she wanted me to wait tables and serve drinks in a bow tie! They spent the night getting buzzed and trying to one up each other . Can honestly say I have never been Read more… more ***d, humiliated or dominated in my whole life. It was wonderful