Do you know what a Pleasure Dom is? I like to do something similar to my lovers. I am the spicy version.

We explore YOU. We focus on YOU. My needs will be met, watching you go through the throws of an orgasm multiple times. This is not about me getting off. It is about playing you like an instrument of pleasure. I want to hear your music.

I want to give you that safe space to explore, to enjoy. To get there first is communication, trust, talking through to allow you to feel comfortable. Learning you is important - what you like and what I can do to you to get you to that point is paramount. It is really about you. Not about me just having a quick pump and dump, quite the opposite. I am very patient. I want to tune you up. I want this to be a concert, even a tour. Not a one hit wonder.

But I am in charge - this is not about me being submissive. Nor is this about being vanilla. This is about an overwhelming freedom to let go knowing I am there to please you, and you can trust me to do what I want to get you there. I am looking to have you lose count of your orgasms. Make up for all of those past missed ones. Choking, spanking, rope play are all on the table, what you want. I am fine with the spicy versions.

As for the relationship: I am not at the point of a LTR dating/GF life, maybe in the future. Right now is for experiences. This is done best if we have a history though, know each other and see each other with some frequency - I am not at the place to maintain a relationship and it would not fit into my current life at the moment. If you are released for side play this is a safe place. I am not going to cling on, and can respect boundaries set up by or for you, just as I need them also.

Background basics:

Due to a decent and well put together life, with a bit of tragedy (widowed), I am a tad private, and won't put much up here. This is the internet. I am an open book in person, I an quick thinking and open to a good bit. Feel free to write and we can meet up face to face first in public, it is preferred. My stuff it together, I have a house, older kids, job and no relationships. Also I am 'fixed' so no more kids. Drug free, smoke free. I have a decent BMI (I still weight the same as my 30s), I prefer Thin/fit/Average but cute is cute. You can be Goth to Trad - any race or height or anything. I love new experiences when it comes to women's bodies.

Not interested in ***, urine or feces.
Dramatic levels of physical ***
Not a slave
Not into pet stuff