Thank you for checking out this profile!

🗣🗣🗣First, I value open, honest conversations.

🍍🍍🍍 I'm a solo polyamorous swinger of 20+ years. During the early years of my lifestyle, I was a Polycule (FMF) member with my first wife. I attended several house, club, and dungeon parties, as well as meet-and-greets.

As of January 2026, I've been a member of Vortex of Des Moines. As of March 2026, I took on organizing the monthly 50+ Munch for Des Moines-area kinksters, with details posted in the events section on FetLife. As of April 2026, I am a nonmember of Club G. I look forward to meeting you at any location if you are interested.

💋❤️🍓 I have several remaining fantasies and sexual activities that I'm actively pursuing. Some fantasies are in the realm of CNC. I have a growing collection of impact and bondage gear reserved for my wife and girlfriend.

I'm looking forward to meeting new friends and having multiple adventures!

YOLO: I have one life with a few remaining years and intend to live it to the fullest.

Addition: January 7, 2026
I'm here to connect with those who live in and around Des Moines, IA. I'm married, ENM/CNM, and a solo polyamorous swinger. More importantly, I'm looking for friends. It doesn't matter who you are because you're a valued person(s).

I would love to befriend you and see where it takes us. I want to help you feel comfortable and enjoy your desired kinks. I'm OK with whatever you'd like to do. We can keep things casual because I desire the company of others.

Going beyond casual, I'm an experimental lover who is open to many kinks, but not all. My primary love language is quality time, which is paired with physical touch, affirmation, and reassurance. I'm very affectionate and caring to those who show me the same.

Updated: May 31, 2026 (FetLife)
👫👫👫 I have an intimate relationship with a lovely lady who communicates openly and honestly about everything. She, being she, and I, being me, while discovering the best in us through compromise and mutual understanding. My goal is to maintain our mutual happiness and fulfill our mutual desires and fantasies. Outside of home, she's the most important person in my world, and she knows it!

💜💜💜 I'm an emotionally mature individual offering genuine love, affection, attention, quality time, availability (including overnights), and aftercare. Although I have an LTR in the works with a lovely lady who is interested in my availability, I can still care for my extended family and companions.

Other things about me:
1 - I love 🐕s. I had chiweenies named Bully, Coco S'mores, and Whitnee La Belle Amour (RIP). I have Patterdale Terriers named Miss Liberty Bloom and Miss Scarlett Rose.
2 - 👨‍🎓I have a master's degree in Psychology.
3 - 🎖USMC/US Army Veteran
4 - Politically Progressive - FDT
5 - Proud Gen X Member

"'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" - Alfred, Lord Tennyson's poem "In Memoriam A.H.H.," published in 1850.

== 04/03/2025 - Results from bdsmtest.org: ==
100% Brat tamer
100% Master/Mistress
100% Non-monogamist
100% Rigger
100% Sadist
100% Voyeur
100% Exhibitionist
100% Daddy/Mommy
98% Experimentalist
94% Dominant
80% Primal (Hunter)
70% Switch
68% Owner
56% Vanilla
48% Degrader
0% Ageplayer

== 10/13/2025 - Results from kinktest.org: ==
100%Exhibitionist
100%Rigger
100%Voyeur
100%Experimentalist
100%Non-monogamist
100%Swinger
95%Brat Tamer
95%Master/Mistress
94%Daddy/Mommy
92%Primal (Hunter)
90.5%Dominant
86%Vanilla
80%Sadist
70%Degrader
60%Owner
42.5%Masochist
40%Primal (Prey)
40%Degradee
40%Brat
26%Ageplayer
17%Switch
12.5%Cuckold / Cuckqean
10.5%Rope Bunny
10%Girl/Boy
10%Pet
8%Slave
0.5%Submissive
0%***me
0%Pay Pig

Soft Limits: Knife Play (watching), Needle Play (watching), Smoking (everything to do with it)

Hard Limits: ABDL (everything to do with it), Diapers (everything to do with it), Human Toilet (everything to do with it), Spitting (everything to do with it), *** (everything to do with it)