BDSM for me is all about the contrasts. The tenderness of softly stroking your face and calling you a good girl, followed by the cruelty of slapping your face and spitting into it. The rough use during a scene where you could easily imagine I don't care about you at all, followed by cuddling up on the sofa afterwards and watching a series. I think a good scene combines elements of light and dark, kindness and cruelty, depravity and care, *** and affection. The contrast is in me too, I can be strict, irrelevant, demanding, chilled out.

Human beings are complex, we all have contrasts or contradictions inside ourselves, only fictional characters are one way all the time. And for me dominance is not a role I play for a scene but part of who I am, with the all the complexity that entails.

I'm looking for something ongoing rather than one off and if you're into power dynamics or are naturally submissive all the better.

Outside kink I get described as a calming, thoughtful presence, albeit with a surreal, irrelevant sense of humour. I love music from electronic to classical, art, nature, adventurous travel and languages.

Violating trust, permanent damage.