There are levels to opening a marriage. Think it over on what you’re comfortable with, playing together only like swingers to being fully open…it’s up to what you want. Do some research on your own ask the question of “if we had this dynamic can I lay next to him at night comfortably and wake up to Read more… still look at him without negative emotions just love?” If none of this dynamics appeal to you and the answer that question is no, then it’s not for you and you can both move on without judgement because having different interests isn’t a bad thing.

It was family & friends but once I moved away I thought it would be better…no it’s location. This “city” feels more like a small town and everyone seems to be close knit so it it’s hard to actually get to know anyone that might be in the community

I was nervous the first time my husband asked. Just make sure you are in a calm relaxed mood, start small like a finger or whatever your smallest vibrator is. Talk dirty or touch each other, the more you turn each other on first then the easier it is to relax and get into the flow of it. Dont stop Read more… talking, he needs to tell you how good it feels so you don’t get in your head and accidentally hurt him, cause stretching too fast is ***ful and ruins the mood. Overall once you do it a few times it’s really fun! Condoms, might just be us but we like lazy cleanup just incase things come down even after pre cleaning. If your harness comes with a vibrator pocket, use it. Makes it feel great for both of you!