Looking for a real first time experience. Always been interested in kink but never considered finding it for real!

Desires and Fantasies
Firstly, apologies if I haven’t replied to your message…I’m receiving quite a lot, so I’m finding it tricky to keep up/decide who I should and shouldn’t be talking to! To help narrow it down, here’s some specific info on what I like to watch/what I’d like to try!
Pussy spanking, ass spanking, nipple clamps, pussy clamps, thong wedgie, vibrators, controlled cumming, gentle but dominant talk. I’m not keen on being called degrading names, I more like the idea that I’m yours to play with and you want me to feel pleasure and a bit of *** with discipline, but still care for me. I like being told what to do (where/how to sit, open my legs, keep my eyes open etc). Not looking for brutality, more slow and gentle domination and control, with kinky things happening. I like the use of things that aren’t typically sexual and I like weird things being done.
I’ve been being a sub online for years, had lots of kinky requests and love them. I get bored and lose interest when I’m told to “finger” myself sigh.
Looking to find someone with similar interests to potentially play for real eek!