I would have to agree The Alchemist- by Paulo Cuehlo

Im in a situation that is similar to what you mention but for me im in the beginning stage of the realization that she isn’t the kinky person I didn’t know I wanted. I’m at that point.

The scammers don’t care, if they can they will take your pics try to get your name so they can blackmail you threatening to send the pictures and anything embarrassing you might have revealed. They will tell you to pay a fee to not get exposed. The reason they want to communicate on instagram is to Read more… get access to your friends/contacts, and basically extort you for as long as they can.

I’ve been married since ‘09. We’ve been together since ‘03. In total 22 years together. I’m very much into kink and she is vanilla. Oh yeah, I wanted to challenge you on another post where you put what’s your darkest kink or something and that you can top it? I don’t think you can beat mine lol. Read more… Back to the original topic. You’re into the lifestyle and he’s not. #1 be true to yourself- you have one life don’t sell yourself short, embrace your freakiness and be happy. #2 communication - let him know what’s on your mind and that you want to explore with him, if he’s not down hopefully he will be okay with accepting you and allowing you to fulfill your kinks and still be with you.

I’ve read all the responses. Everyone is correct. Some are inexperienced, and haven’t crossed that bridge yet. Some are fake profiles/bots/sex workers, and some might be not all there. In summary, the people who are actually in this “lifestyle” knows that everyone has limits and will put forth the Read more… effort to mention in it in their profile.