I regularly get something like that on the few platforms I frequent. I have entertained it enough times to know it is always a scam or a wannabe pro domme, and new leave a very brief response containing some very rude words.

I've been crossdressing most of my life and have chatted with a LOT of CD's, most of whom have the same qualms early on. I say most of them, because in my experience, the vast majority of crossdressers are straight and lead pretty normal lives, have wives and kids and houses and cars and dogs and Read more… cats. They just like to wear pretty knickers and dresses and make up now and then, usually very privately. Some take it a bit further, go public and incorporate it more into their every day lives (myself to a certain extent, though less than I used to), some go even further and go somewhere on the trans spectrum. A few (not many) are gay. A few more interact sexually with men only when dressed, but feel no inclination the rest of the time. Some (a few more again, myself included) are attracted to a pretty, fem presenting CD or trans person, but not masc blokes.
Its up to you what you do. There are no lines to cross, it's a beautiful, colourful spectrum and you can experiment to your hearts content before deciding where you want to be on it. And that may well change with time.
Oh and BTW, there are plenty of people of all genders who are into it. You're not a freak, you'll only put off people who were wrong anyway.

If you aren't being respected outside of sessions you're with the wrong person (unless that is your agreed dynamic). That's called an abusive relationship.

It's the technique of letting the stick swing freely at the end of the stroke-very similar to the technique required for caning, or for hand spanking without hurting your hand!

I love-hate all the impact toys... Not sure about the nettles though! 😝

Just start out with gentler strikes until the behind in question is suitably glowing. Then have at it 😉