I am looking for a relationship with a romantic, gentlemanly dominant that begins with weekends, then progressing to a LTR. I am not interested in a text-only or cyber relationship, a relationship with a married man, or a long-distance relationship with limited access.

I am educated and have spent 13 years living and working around the world. I have also written and self-published a romantic novella called Twilight Express with D/s elements (it's on Amazon). It is not an instruction manual for me, but tells readers what sort of emotional connection I'm seeking.

Ideally you'll be reasonably near my age, tall, educated. I like men who wear glasses. You also need to understand that to be a true dominant, your approach must be cerebral, not simply physical.

If your first message to me is crude, you are not for me and I am not for you.

I am not a heavy player.

I am not looking for someone who just wants a quickie. I define a real dominant as someone who understands a submissive's needs, and is willing to put some thought into a training or play session. They should also understand that I am not a submissive who has low self-esteem, or is desperate to find a man (I am afraid I hear from quite a few males who assume this). No marrieds, please.