In an effort to stop all the random messages I've been getting recently , I'm going to be direct and to the point! If you don't read my profile from start to end don't waste my time messaging me you WILL BE ignored.

I have been in the world of BDSM since before BDSM was mainstream. I am of the philosophy that BDSM is not only about sex. So forget about what you see in the movies. I consider myself an old school Domme. Meaning I believe one must first be in control of themselves, whether or not your submissive does not mean you should not carry yourself with dignity and pride. One should take the time to know not only what BDSM is but what it means to you,or at very least be willing to learn. I know what I want and who I am . I WILL NOT settle so bring your A- game. I value honesty, integrity, respect and communication. If what I have said has offended you or is something that you don't already do . then you might as well stop reading now.

For me BDSM is an ever evolving journey of personal growth and knowledge. While I am happy to share my knowledge and to learn from others . Do not mistake that as weakness. I give basic respect. I expect basic respect and overall good manners . If you want more then You Will have to earn it ! BDSM to me is a lifestyle not a kink. It’s not something that is done just in the bedroom or part time.. Point in fact I like order and structure in my life . Many people would say On first glance I’m quiet and reserved.I take my time, I watch, I listen, I wait. I'm patient . I observe, I hear. I’m the “quiet” one you need to watch out for . When I see or hear something that interests me then I act. I Think before I act.I say what I mean and I mean what I say.

I believe in actions speaking louder the words so don’t message me and ask me to be your Mistress and we have never spoken. Calling me Mistress is something that is earned.
act accordingly. Bad manners and general stupidity will not be acknowledged.

To be submissive is not to say to just any Female .. be my Mistress or dominate me ..as I said BDSM is a lifestyle so show me the person you are. Be able to hold an intelligent conversation. Have your own ideas and opinions.be able to stand by your convictions, don't try to tell me what you think I wanna hear .

I’m not looking for someone who is just gonna submit.

If I’ve not had a conversation in chat with you and said you could message me don’t act the fool don't send a hey goddess message to me. Don't waste my time . come and find me in the chat and say hello. prove to me you're worth my time. Show me what you know. Show me how you behave, show me who you are . and that you have at least read this far in my profile.

Consider the following:

I am not just looking for someone to call me mistress in fact that is a privilege you will have to earn.

I live the BDSM lifestyle and follow the protocols .So research this if you don’t know what that means.

If you're looking to be my submissive then think of this as the hardest job interview you ever had. I will be asking you questions and testing your knowledge.

First test you will have to come to chat and say hello and know how many times I said “sex” in this profile. example greeting would be .. greetings LdyTala may I introduce myself my name is user name and the answer to your test is ...

I want a submissive who knows themselves and at very least be willing to find out what being submissive means to them. If they are just starting their journey.

I’m not looking for someone who jumps at every female that passes by

I am not a dominatrix so I’m not looking for tributes or money but you still have to be capable of taking care of yourself and having your shit together first. That doesn't mean I don't like to be wined and dined.

I am not looking for someone who I have to micromanage .You should be able to do what you're told. Without having me to hold your hand.

I’m not looking to fulfill a kink I’m looking for someone to share my lifestyle with who will fit into that and shocker much of BDSM life is boring everyday life stuff. It’s not all about sex !!

Know it takes time to build any relationship so it’s not gonna happen over night you're going to have to put in the work.

I’m not looking for a sex or play partner

I need you to be secure in who you are as a person .

I am not looking for littles, sissy’s, switches or female submissives

If you have read and understand Everything that I have said you may message me. Although I prefer chat. You will need more than a one line pick up as I said think interview as this will be the first time I get see what kind of person you are yes I have a minimum character length set in my filters so if you don't have enough the message won’t even be read if you read my entire profile to the end 13 should also be included in any message sent to me via chat or pm

My interests are many and varied. Anything else you want to know ask.

Final question: what does Tala mean? Hint: Tala is not an english word.

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