Hello.

I’m little bear. I’m submissive, and live with my nesting partner in a DD/lg dynamic. He’s poly, and I am exploring poly/ENM with great relish, enjoyment, and curiosity about what it has to teach me around my connections with folks.
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I adore connecting with new people, hearing their stories and learning from them, and am looking for more connections which might lead to relationships, and play experiences.
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In the world outside of kink I’m a senior leader in a charity - hence the lack of a full face photograph. I value good conversation, books and words and ideas, excellent coffee, adventures, and theological and philosophical musings. Also, really terrible jokes.
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I’m no pushover and submission for me is an act of self care and nurture and, as is the case for most if not all submissives, not a mindless giving over of myself.
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I’m primarily attracted to people of integrity, who care about others, and who have opinions about things.
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One of the main areas of Kink that I would like to explore more is around medfet. What that looks like is up for exploration.
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I also love impact play, being restrained, sensory play, safe and sane mind play, and getting to be a good girl, amongst other things!
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I adore the DD/lg dynamic, and find the nurture and safe space created within that dynamic to be incredibly fulfilling on a number of levels. Feel free to ask me more about that. The psychology of kink and its expressions fascinates me - on a personal level as well as in the wider sense.
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I really do understand that reaching out to folks can be daunting - even for the most dominant.

However, messages that just say ‘Hey’, ‘Hey, how are you’, ‘Hi’, ‘Hi there’, or other similar one or two word messages won’t get a reply.

I’m sorry, but it shows that you’ve not read my profile and have probably messaged 100 people in the same way within the last hour. My time is limited and precious.

Looking forward to hearing from you.
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Sharp impact play (canes and whips) - I just don’t enjoy them.
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Any form of body shaming/verbal *** which is not arrived at by way of affection and consent. I have worked too hard at loving my beautiful soft body to allow myself to receive any shame in that area.
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I am curvy and up front about that as I adore my curves. If that’s not for you that’s totally fine, but please do read my profile.
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Disingenuous people who are not up front about their circumstances/desires/availability for connection. Honesty and openness is a must for me and the lack thereof a hard limit.
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Lack of discretion, or lack of understanding about the need to manage perceptions outside of the kink world - regardless of how open and free we wish we could all be.
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People who have not done/are not doing/don’t see the need to do their own work. Please, do your work, or be on the journey of doing it, and then come speak to me.
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Rudeness or discourtesy. We are all grown up adults, building connections with other grown up adults. People who can’t operate in a courteous and kind way are of no interest.
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PLEASE NOTE:

if you know that you are the type of person to think that you want something, and then get in to said something but then ghost/block/ignore when you work out that it’s not what you thought it would be, then please do sail on by.
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Whilst I recognise the complexities of what it means to be human, I have little time or tolerance for folks who, if they realise that they’ve gotten in to something that’s not for them, are unable or unwilling to have open conversation and move on from that connection in a healthy and adult way which leaves both parties feeling seen and valued.
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I like my life to be a fully drama free zone and, whilst I may be submissive and little, I know my value and worth, and my time and energies are precious.