I've been practicing bdsm for a long time and used to run a lifestyle website dedicated to bdsm and CNC. (Parts of the site are still in the web archives, so if you're curious, ask me and I can send a link).

I'd describe my dom style as closer to pet owner and what I'm looking for as a pet slave. I'm using pet in the more vanilla sense though. To me, it still implies complete ownership of my sub, their body, and obedience from them, but without the role playing, outfits and *** aspect that tends to go with BDSM pet play, if that makes sense. I still expect my sub to wear a slave collar (and a very pretty collar at that), but again not the ears, tail, etc. that can go with pet play. To me pet also implies my sub being loved and cherished, and maybe a bit pampered in ways even, much like my dog. I tend to use more positive rein***ment for training, so if you're the type that works for and gets really happy when you earn a "good girl!" from a dom, then we'd probably work well together.

I do still have some CNC leanings, including enjoying *** with the right person (it's not a must have for me). I really only enjoy it though if I get the reaction I'm after, which would be shame mixed in with arousal from that shame. It's even better if that arousal feels rather involuntary. Those who've experienced that specifically and enjoy it on some level know what I'm talking about :D

As for what I'm looking for, physically speaking, petite and cute are features that catch my eye the most. Between creating outfits for 3d characters and finding cute outfits for my dog, I've discovered that I would enjoy shopping for outfits for my pet slave as well and look forward to trying that out. Again, my tastes lean towards cute rather than elegant or sophisticated looking, so the person I'm looking for should be comfortable with that.

Personality wise, someone who has a good sense of humor, is sweet, kind and has a genuinely submissive personality would work best. I'm often playful and enjoy teasing, so if your sense of humor extends to being able to tease back, that's even better. It might get you some spankings at times, but I'm ok with that.

I spend my free time generally playing video games, doing 3d game development as a hobby, creating graphics for my own t-shirts (most of them have a llama on them) and bike riding and walking my dog. I also do woodworking at times (I've made my own BDSM toys and furniture before) and am putting a little neighborhood library in front of my house currently.

On weekends I like to take my dog, a little white poodle mix that loves wearing clothes, to the farmer's market and for walks downtown. If you're in Davis and see a middle aged guy with purple hair and a dog wearing a dress, that's me :D (I'm pretty confident I'm the only one in town that matches that description).

I gave up drinking in 2010 after going professional and having to retire, but my dog has a favorite bar downtown so we pop in there at times as well. (they have dog treats and a puppy hour on weekends)

Professionally, I'm an application development team lead. I enjoy the job quite a bit because I get to spend part of my time programming and the other part of my time helping and mentoring other programmers and watching out for my team basically. I also work from home 100% of the time, which I really like, obviously.

Overall I have a pretty nice, secure, laid back and enjoyable life, and the one thing I'm missing is a pet slave to share in that life in a long term and hopefully permanent relationship.

The sky...

(I had to make sure I got at least one Dad Joke into my profile)