If you can’t provide the control, decision making and authority… you aren’t a Dom you are a service-top. Which is what you were describing not wanting in your post.

Oh it’s a real thing, it doesn’t happen more because many people are either too simple in their mind set to be this nuanced, or just too lazy. I prefer complicated myself, as well as nuanced multifaceted personality types who can manage more than one side of their own persona or of other peoples. Read more… It is romanticized a little but it’s not as far fetched as some people make it out to be.