hello, name is J
I am Dom, Sadist, but I like to give after care and reassurance also, it is not just all about ***, please is to be had as well, it is in my nature to do so.
I set rules, tasks, humiliating tasks, humiliate you, degrade you, and punish you. good girls though get rewards, to be a good girl the tasks need to be done and done right, you must obey, obedience is rewarded, be brat however or disobey in anyway and punishment will take place.
I am not to be called daddy, at all, not my thing.
needle play is not my thing, *** is not my thing
So, in a dofferent sense I am in a similar situation, I am a Dom, married with my wife being vanilla, and I love her truly, and love what we have, but after years of not getting my Dom fix she has openly said for me to go find a sub to play with, she did not have to do this and I didn't ask her for Read more… permission, she just openly made that decision that it is fine for me to do so and I make sure at every stage she is fine with it.
I think for me, when I first got into my kinks, I found out some things was nit for me and then others I hadn't thought of doing as the idea of them I did not like but I actually turned out to like them.
Lack of experience is probably the reason why you feel somewhat apprehensive