About me
Description
Looking to meet lovely people to explore with irl. I am keen to broaden my horizons and do new things with people I have a connection with.
Single and experimenting. Not very heavily BDSM but would like to play. Ask me about my special interests.
Nerdy AuDHD daftie. Love making music, playing board games, computer projects, gigs and festivals, and eating out. (Both kinds!) Fond of a party if the vibes are right.
I make a great espresso martini.
Medium active. I enjoy indoor climbing, walks and swimming. Adore skiing when I get to go. Gym but not obsessive.
I'm a giver and would like to focus my attention on you. x
Can host, will travel.
🍄❄️🌱 friendly
Limits
play and butt stuff is off the table without a lot of trust. Breathplay, a hard no.
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
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Single and experimenting. Not very heavily BDSM but would like to play. Ask me about my special interests.
Nerdy AuDHD daftie. Love making music, playing Read more… board games, computer projects, gigs and festivals, and eating out. (Both kinds!) Fond of a party if the vibes are right.
I make a great espresso martini.
Medium active. I enjoy indoor climbing, walks and swimming. Adore skiing when I get to go. Gym but not obsessive.
I'm a giver and would like to focus my attention on you. x
Can host, will travel.
🍄❄️🌱 friendly
My current Primary Partner had always wanted me to fuck her in the ass, and I never liked anything to do with the bum before and was really uncomfortable about it. Eventually I went to a Read more… physical therapist who I trusted and gave me a very relaxing massage, including some basic prostate play. She told me what she was doing and tips for playing myself and it helped me become comfortable with that area so I could play with my partner more easily. Fast forward a few more gentle sessions and we're now doing a anal when she likes and it's improved things a lot.
But there are things we can't do for each other despite having good conversations about them. She likes me to be rough and also breath play. I am really not comfortable with the latter specifically, and have told her I'm not going to do that. She respects this.
Similarly, I have a masturbation kink and would love to watch her play with herself, but she can't get past the performance anxiety. I also want her to watch me, which she has dutifully done a couple of times but quite reasonably doesn't find the idea of a man wanking very sexy, which I can tell so it turns me off too.
We've both agreed that she'd like more people to treat her roughly and I'd like to see more women cum before we die, so now we're looking forward to playing with others to get the things we want. We think it's healthier than wishing we'd do things for each other we don't want. I think it's very possible to get past things that feel uncomfortable in some areas and that makes for a much better connections and sexier times... but we're both also comfortable saying when we can't meet that need so we can look elsewhere and not have to live our short lives not getting everything we want.
What are your thoughts? How have you tackled these sorts of things?
I was really nervous about butt stuff in general and my partner really helped me, and we worked our way up to it. But working up is easier than that One Thing My Partner Wants because that's a good chance it won't go quite that way and you don't want to disappoint.
I think it's worth addressing Read more… that specifically. Maybe trying for a short time without the expectation of a finish. Everything to take the pressure off.
Is that a big concern of yours? It sounds like you're happy with butt stuff in general... or do you feel uncomfortable with a strap on? Perhaps spending some time with that (and discovering that your partner really likes how it looks and gets excited by it even if you think it looks silly) might help?
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