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Description
Used to be a bit more into kink but long vanilla marriage and new vanilla relationship means I'm basically a newbie again. My current partner says they'll explore but not much so far. Here to learn more about myself and explore, keen to chat to others and make friends who I can have frank and honest discussions with.
Desires and Fantasies
Love to be dominated, pinned down, hair pulling, tied up, told what to do in general. Biting is a huge thing but no blood/knives/needles.
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Don't really like porn at all, I need to have some kind of knowledge of the people involved and strangers just don't do it for me. Each to their own of course!
Thanks, I recently got a dog too. He's not trained but was a carefully selected rescue and is brilliant during episodes. He's made such a difference
I've got complex PTSD, so mostly anxiety and low mood. I find a lot of things difficult as a result. Yeah I'm working on things in a long term way aside from this, I guess I'm wondering about symptom relief more than anything?
Yep, I saw something very briefly in a film the other day, someone being flogged... My brain went calm just at the thought. I am concerned about the long term implications I confess.
Yeah, pretty vanilla as my partner is that way, although I was hoping to explore a bit. I thought I could live without it but that's a whole other story...
True... I guess I just feel bad for wanting it. It's been ages and I've coped before (but things are markedly worse right now).
I have always had some mental health issues and they've mostly been controlled. Years ago when it was bad it helped to be in a sub position, that wonderful feeling of peace gave Read more…me a break. Nowadays through a number of external stressors they've got much worse. Assuming I can get my partner to engage, does anyone with these issues find they help?
My friend that has been chatting to me about it has given me some basic tasks (non sexual dominant stuff) to give me a taste of if it works and it really seems to help. Maybe it's an odd question (because quite frankly I'm craving it for sexual reasons too) but I was just musing if it might help my brain too.
Thanks!
I have no significant abuse in my past. I don't normally seek high excitement and adrenaline rush. Masochism is a way that I flirt with risk and drama. It's my private, personal, inside joke that so many people who think they know me well would be shocked to know what I have done and would do for erotic enjoyment.
My long-time lover helped keep me safe when I might otherwise have gone too far in an up or down period. He's gone now, and I miss him and thank him for many years of enjoyable drama and a full spectrum of sensations and emotions.
Thanks that is really helpful! I've been really careful making sure I listen to her too. She says she's happy with just straight vanilla sex but says that what turns her on most is me enjoying it so I'm cautiously optimistic.
I like the idea of picking one night a week where it's a day we explore Read more… things. I might suggest a weekend evening. I've got children from a previous relationship but they give us more of a rest weekend mornings so won't matter if we're up a bit later. That's a great suggestion. I'll keep you updated!
We've talked about it before so I don't think it was a surprise, she seemed a bit sorry as she said she realised she'd been neglecting that part of me. It's what gave me some hope!
Well it's been a couple of weeks and as yet nothing really has happened, I've dropped some massive hints but don't want to push. After our initial conversation she asked exactly the sort of thing I'd like and I started basic... She said she'd try but nothing... Not sure if I'm being impatient! She Read more… was a bit more forceful in bed the other day so maybe was trying and I made a point of saying how that did it for me... It's so confusing!
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