About me
I'm a pleasure-seeking libran seeking other/lovers to pleasure; preferably ***ps with whom i feel that certain chemistry, cellular attraction, primal instinct, *** desire, destiny, fate... call it what you like. I find as much pleasure giving as getting, in other words I get just as off getting my other off as i do myself (not that I don't like doing myself mind you) and disciplines like bdsm and tantric help me to explore and understand that. Suffice to say I'm a classic switch. It's not the position of power that cuts my grass, it's the transfer that really turns me on. The actual taking or relinquishing of control can be simply exhilarating. But I don't see it as just power and control, it's also energy, sexual energy, and nothing accesses that energy better than bdsm.
To me sex and sexuality is about pleasure and empowerment. I don't do hurt, *** or shame. To this end I practice tantric and challenge negative typecasting and taboos within and without. I fantasize about shibari. I love cross-dressing and look f#*%ing hot in my lover's lingerie. Boundaries always make me curious so I love to tease and test them though I acknowledge some are sacred.
In a nutshell I don't feed my demons. They may have something to teach me but I don't pander to them or play with them, let alone invite them into my bedroom. I've also got complex pts (i ditched the d) and while it's well managed i simply can't handle agro or *** on any level at any time under any circumstances, ever. I treasure my close relationships and cherish my sexuality. I actually find sexual ethics a turn-on, and reckon kink and queer communities do it best. I'm a late developer and a bit of a peter pan and thus i'm relishing this late-life free-fall into intimacy through a little discipline and deviance.
