Completely agree with eyemblacksheep.. domestic violence has nothing to do with BDSM. Domestic violence is someone exerting power over you, whether that be physical, emotional or mental, they’re doing it for their benefit. They don’t care about you, they’re selfish and often insecure in themselves Read more… so they need to take control. Having a Dom is completely different, it’s about care, anything including any punishments given are done with your best interests. A sub holds the power and they choose to give their power to their Dom. In DV the victim doesn’t have a choice.