came from fetlife. bonus points if u also go to kink events!

new to the scene in practice. psychologically/philosophically/sexually always felt connected to bdsm

• bi (lots of my experience is w/ women)
• masochist + sadist
• switch leaning sub (need more experience to dom)
• low *** tolerance
• fluent in english, learning german

framework

(abiding by RACK)

for me, a foundational intellectual and aesthetic framework is important. in my sadomasochistic view, *** n power exchange are necessary conduits for experiencing what i consider subspace i.e expérience limite as seen in bataille and foucault.

"O filthy grandeur! O sublime disgrace!"

is, to me, *** and pleasure, surrender and ***, profane and sacred.

(warning: not allergic to spontaneity and fun :D)

kinks

definitely into:
• breath play
• bodily marks (bruises/bites/etc)
• power exchange/power imbalance
• praise + condescension/***
• intellectual foreplay/domination
• psychological play
• wax play
• impact play

likely into:
• restraint
• cnc (more into dub-con than outright non-con)
• age/size difference
• teacher/student
• bratting
• ddlg

maybe (really depends on experiencing it):
• overstimulation
• sensory deprivation
• knife play
• *** (emotional)

soft limits:
• *** (physical)
• anal

hard limits:
• long-term/permanent ***
• ***, ***, etc

interested in actively exploring

• daddy(mommy)/babygirl. the idea of a dynamic where i can let go of all the defences i have built up and be childish, needy, protected, etc. additionally, it doesnt help that i find nurturing dominance in an older/more experienced/authoritative figure very arousing, especially if a mix of gentleness and roughness is present.
• power struggle. to fight, to briefly dominate/gain the upper hand, to be subdued/***d into surrender. i struggle with the concept of bratting, and dont believe i fully understand it, but it may be included here.
• willing submissiveness. often i feel a wall of sorts, even if indulging in fantasy, when i consider fully and willingly submitting myself to another. it is something that i wish to explore through mutual emotional connection and trust.

personality

curious, enthusiastic, passionate abt my interests, bit of an overexplainer and have a hard time defining other's boundaries so communication is super important to me. quite oblivious so lmk exactly what u want if i don't catch up

interests

philosophy: bataille my beloved
art: middle ages + renaissance + baroque + general art history of 14-19th century europe
literature: reading decameron! fav authors: umberto eco & baudelaire
video games: fav game is disco elysium
wikipedia article editing (LOVE the research and leaning)
bonus action: recommend me an opera!

physical

im like 173cm and 100kg. curvy + working to get to a healthier point specifically for me. looks/weight arent everything but im someone who appreciates aesthetics and it would be hypocritical of me to expect the same from someone whose ideas of it i don't fit

its a bit silly, but im really starved for intellectual connection and especially one within the bdsm sphere. so, please, PLEASE if you're educated and like to read/know what i was talking abt in my interests section - make sure to write :D