I learned my deepest darkest desires from books. I found one that stimulated me enough to realize I am not a dom as I thought.
But being a sub does not mean I am open to ***, and a gentle controlled touch is necessary. No hard handed ignorant man will ever touch me, BDSM should be memorable not leave me scarred.
I do not respond to amateur messages that start with campy daddy references, it’s sick and disturbing. I only want to meet a refined man, with an educated vocabulary. Well dressed, clean aesthetic, attention to detail, emotionally intelligent.
No campy nicknames like “baby”. Dry humor, dark and realistic world view. Excellent control, leans into being possessive

No bodily fluids whatsoever. Only into men. Not into cheaters unless your wife tells me herself from her own profile.