I have been there same sort of situation and I have to say I switch when I'm sub I give all that negative feeling up I can let go I totally zone out of real life and when I dom I can release that pent up frustration and my partner loves it , it helps that I have found the love of my life with my Read more… partner he completes me . We have only recently opened up to each other about what we want it's so freeing iv never been able to donthat with anyone apart from him he knows my past and is very aware of what might traumatise me and helps me through it . Iv been assaulted by multiple men and thought I was broken , our connection through bdsm has healed those dark parts of me .