Maybe the first thing to do would be do your research, have a look at some of pet play articles on here also, take a look at what it entails - make sure it's what you want and make sure you know how far into being a 'pet' you would go.
Maybe you could go into the 'lobby' chatroom and ask Read more… somethings you are unsure of, keep an eye out for other 'pets' see if anyone is willing to share experiences with you, maybe some guidance.
I hope you find what you are looking for x
It might be worth looking into mediation or professional help for your husband? It does seem like he way have come to a halt, unsure of what to do next? And that uncertain feeling, not knowing what's going to happen, maybe being afraid of what's going to happen, could be angering him?
Also Read more… depression maybe another cause, going off what you said about his hygiene. It will only get worse, doctors trip needed.
Also, you need to think about what's right for you, does he make you happy, can you work it out, do you want to work it out? Etcetc.
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