Couple looking for a third, maybe more. We've just agreed to try poly, so if you're new too, it might be a good fit. also willing to do separate 😅
Just looking to see what's out there, experiment, and maybe find someone.
if I message you, it will be a bland message at first, just to open conversation. I won't start convos with pet names, demands, or acting like a dom just because I feel like there needs to be trust and some sort of foundation first
SC: Texasvikingking because it's apparently important?
Not to sure. willing to try most things I suppose.
Also, you need to define what your safe word means.
Is it "stop what you're doing so we can discuss"? Is it everything stops and you're immediately let up/out?
It sounds to me like he's just over zealous and needs to relax a bit. He also needs to learn that being a dom is not solely about power. Read more… It's more about you trusting him enough to surrender control and trusting him to stop when needed. The belt could have gone horribly wrong, and unless he knows what to do if it does, I would recommend starting lighter. I've worked as an emt and seen what can happen in strangulation, granted it was non sexual and non consensual, but still. It can affect a lot of things in throat area if not done correctly. It can alter your voice permanently, it can give you breathing problems in future, etc.
What it really comes down to is talking to him and making him understand you are serious about your limits.
I know that's a repeat, but it cannot be stressed enough
Safe word is an absolute. Do not take no for an answer.
The belt may have been poorly chosen in inexperienced hands.
Make a hard line for the experience. You will need to be untied if A B or C happens, the play needs to stop if X Y or Z happens. Set your limits and stick to them, no matter what, Read more… even if it upsets him.
Be honest. If it upsets him, that is fine. He needs to know, both to keep you safe and to keep the "fun" fun.
Look into clubs or something in your area that you can go to together and separately to learn and get ideas.
Hope this helps