WHO AM I?

Just a kinky gentleman, contrary to ordinary, with a dominant and loving heart. A kinky Pleasure Dom with a slight sadistic nature, and a creative mind. Been in and around this lifestyle for decades now. I was active in the local community, back before Sanctuary opened it's doors. Today, I'm living for the day, and hoping for the future... and having fun along the way. More about quality, not quantity. I need to know, trust, and respect you before I will consider sharing myself and my life with you.

I practice ethical/non-monogamy. Why? Because Monogamous dating sucks. I got tired of being alone after things didn't work out. Having multiple subs helps insure that doesn't happen. I am very self-aware, and certainly good being alone. But I prefer not. I have a lot of love to go around... and I love to share. I seek poly-type dynamics where we all work together to support each other. Where we attend life together. We may or may not play together, but we are not into excluding others. If your profile says you are strictly monogamous, then our mindset will not mesh.

95% of my experience has been as a Dom. The other %5 was as a submissive, when I first got into the lifestyle. I've found it nearly impossible to find someone with the experience, expertise, and wow factor to warrant the gift of my submission. Yes, I am very picky. I've been curious to explore that side of me again, after many years. I'm not into power struggles... So If I submit to you, it will be wholeheartedly, and to the best of my ability.

I am highly sexual. I don't seek to fuck the masses. Not into ONS. I require a deep connection. I can fuck anytime. Honesty, trust, communication, and your submission turn me on. That's where and when the magic happens. If you are ot highly sexual, our have the capacity to be with the right person, then we won't be a good match.

I'm an open book! Which is easy to be, when you're not hiding anything. If we begin communicating, I'll provide you with my LinkedIn profile that highlights my education and career, and my facebook profile which will give you more insight into who I am, and what I like to do. I'm very self-aware, and even enlightened. Young at heart and wise beyond my years. I'm very social, and have friends from all walks of life. I live in a No-Drama Zone.

I'm 420 friendly and believe in moderation with alcohol. I'm not a fan of other mind altering intoxicants. I'm disease free... recently and regularly tested. Condoms required, until they are not. I have been fixed... vaccinated and boosted like a dog.

Check out my writings to learn more about me.

WHY AM I IN THIS LIFESTYLE?

I don't claim to be a member of any lifestyle, because I've created my own. BDSM/Swinger/Nudist. I'm not for everyone. I'm highly sexual in how I play. If that's not part of what you seek, then we won't be a good match. I have many friends in all three lifestyles. I'm an extrovert and highly social. I'm a lake rat in the summers (another lifestyle) on my boat. And I love hitting the ski slopes in the winter. I hang out with lifestyle friends whenever possible... because I enjoy being around like-minded people. I have an explorers heart. love new experiences, exploring kinks in safe, sane, and consensual/non-consensual ways. I do love and require intimacy, passion, and connection. I give what I get.

COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT:

I love meeting new LS friends. Munches are OK every once in a while. I love educational events... I seem to always learn something new. I'd rather socialize at the dungeon than play. I like keeping playtime private, but will make exceptions from time to time. If you request that I meet you at an event, I will certainly consider it. But I would rather take you out to a nice dinner where we can talk privately. If you spend any time getting to know me... you will quickly see that I am above board and exactly what I say I am.

HOW I DOMINATE:

The way I dominate is custom tailored to the one I'm playing with. I'm a Pleasure Dom. Service is my love language. I put a lot of prep work into a scene. If you're inexperienced, I'm a great trainer, and love enlightening fellow explorers and teaching about the beauty this lifestyle offers, if done correctly. Please don't waste my time if you're not willing to put in the work. Learning how to safely function within this lifestyle requires dedication. I will invest in you, if you will invest in yourself! If you have years of experience, and seek someone who really knows what they are doing, then I might be your guy. If you are a masochist, don't take my kind nature for granted. I am very capable of providing the *** you seek and crave. Fuck around and find out!

I really love orgasm play. *** by orgasm... orgasm denial...and so on. If you have trouble with orgasms, I can usually help fix that! What really gets me off is getting you off... let us count the different ways! I want to see your body shake and shiver! I want to see you drool and gasp! I want to see your eyes roll into the back of your head! And I want to hear you beg me to make it stop... or not! Lately I've really enjoyed pushing my Sadist button a little bit.

CURRENT RELATIONSHIPS:

I have one collared & owned submissive babygirl (CalaisDatura) that I spend a lot of time with. She is a sub leaning switch who I have been training to be a Dominant. She is currently seeking a male or female sub. Inquire within. We both play separately, and together. And sometimes we bring in others who like to switch. We find that exchanging power from time to time is incredibly exciting, and builds higher levels of trust and intimacy. We share everything, and I cherish her deeply! She lives out of town. So Sometimes I find myself with a lot of free time.

I have another submissive slut (Not On Fet) we play with her about once every 1 1/2 months.

WHAT I SEEK:

What will really get my attention is someone who has shown some success at working to better themselves, and someone who knows how to properly manage their business, good or bad. A beautiful smile and a kinky mindset really get me going. I seek a good communicators who thrive in honesty.

I'm currently seeking a local sub slut to serve me on a regular basis. She should have time available to serve on a semi-consistent basis. Openness and Honesty are required! If you have things you wish to hide, you are not a good fit. I have an extensive vetting process. I will require you to fill out a submissive play partner checklist that will be discussed extensively. Once complete, I will present a short term contract with certain submissive protocols you will be required to follow. All designed to teach you more about yourself, initiate communication and negotiations, define limits, insure your safety and mine, and make the magic happen faster.

If you seek growth and fun, in a loving, intimate atmosphere where we help support each other, please apply within. If we discover I am not your cup of tea, then let's still be friends! This opportunity is about feeling happy, having fun, experiencing love and intimacy, learning, and growing from our experiences!

Sing like no one is listening... Dance like no one is watching... and love like there's no tomorrow!

My limits are your limits, discussed well in advance. My vetting process is extensive. Are you willing to put in the work? If not, don't waste my time.