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I'm looking for a long term relationship with elements of TPE and transformation and the idea of consensual nonconsent. I'm interested in relationship dynamics where I can gradually lose control to someone else. I like the idea being nudged, coerced, conditioned,guided and worn down into transforming beyond my public protestations.

I'm drawn to confident, assertive men - especially those who can be gentle and kind while also enjoying influencing, encouraging and shaping someone over time. I am not interested however in online relationships, I am looking for something in person.

I'm not generally into ***, sadism or masochism, or verbal ***.

I think its important to have a discussion with one's partner to understand each other's limits.