I am looking for a sir or madam that I can have some fun with. Please be patient with me as I have been through some stuff and I am not quick to trust. My last LTR was emotionaly abusive and I am still recovering from that (vanilla 11yr marriage). And some much more recently, so yeah, I find my trust is very hard to give as I always end up the one hurt and losing out in the long run.

And my last Sir just vanished off the face of the earth and has left me feeling very *** and unwanted...

Another got all upset because my username is not the same as my real name, but they didn't ask...

I've been offline for a good couple of years and only just starting to dip my toes back in so to speak and did not have the app ***lled. I needed the break from everything for my own mental health, so sorry if I have not replied to anyone.

I need to feel at least a bit of an attraction to you so please make sure I can see what you look like in your photos? I am a shallow bratty sub basically hahaha. Also, I get that you might want to be 'private' but let us also not forget this is a dating site first and foremost, and if you are are embarrassed by who you are, maybe this is not the place for you...

I really don't care if you say, oh, but people would judge me where I work if I show my face... You do realise that sexual orientation is a protected characteristic - so don't be ashamed of being who you are, online or off. You Do You.

If your are significantly younger than me that really puts me off, while I am very open minded I would prefer someone around my age or older :)

Also as everyone seems to think that all subs like and want it: anal, ***, swallowing. Hard limits. I do not have to explain myself, you should respect the fact I have them and that should be enough.

Desires and Fantasies
I need to trust you before I can share these.