LA**** Posted June 15 I want to be in a poly relationship. It's so counterproductive for us to be monogamous when we can't and don't want to give each other what we need. And the more and more I think about it, I need a threesome to check off of my bucketlist if I can't have a regular bit of fun like that forever.
Io**** Posted June 17 I just got out of one, it was extremely toxic. I don't know if I'd ever do it again, but I will never allow the same kind of behavior again.
Dr**** Posted June 18 Its more so u gotta learn to not b jealous . Me an my lady have had 3sum wit a female an other occasion a male.
Ot**** Posted July 19 I’m polyamorous. My partners are polyamorous. Our relationships are not. By that I mean that we are each the hinge in several separate relationships. I date A, B, and C. A dates me and X. B dates me and L, M, and N. C only dates me for now but might date others in the future. A, B, and C do not date each other— they’re metamours. My metamours are X, L, M, and N. Everyone knows and fully consents to this arrangement. A polyamorous relationship would be if A, B, and/or C dated me AND each other such as a triad or quad.
LA**** Posted July 19 @OttoTechnika how do you talk about the metamours with any of them? I *** triggering of jealousy even with casual dating and no commitment when it comes to talking about them.
Ot**** Posted July 19 Jealousy is a complex emotion that can consist of many different feelings and ***s. It’s a lot like a check engine light on your car— you need to look deeper to understand what it is that you need to process or address. Is it *** of losing them? Is there a need or want that you have that’s being unmet? Are you comparing yourself to their other partners and feel like you’re somehow less (attractive, smart, dominant, submissive, experienced)? You drill in on those feelings and work through them with your partner(s). In your case, who is feeling jealous? Is it you or your other partners?
LA**** Posted July 19 I'm asking how to check in to see the check engine light with my partners. I am fine. Jealousy is at worst a fun thrill to me. But while I haven't started date 2 with one and she was apologetic about being out of town, I wanted to assure her that there was no dependency on me waiting for her. Like her a lot, but I'm also dating other women. How would I even mention them while being safe not to hurt her feelings by it?
Ot**** Posted July 19 Everyone I date is openly polyamorous so I’m not surprising anyone but dating other people. It’s trickier when you’re dating in a monogamous dating pool and you want them to be okay with your being polyamorous and dating others. Will all things of a sexual, kink, or romantic nature the key is fully informed consent. Let any potential new person you’re asking on a date know that you’re polyamorous and that an exclusive relationship is off the table. A *LOT* of people will opt out at that point, but not as many who started dating you under the pretense of a normal monogamous relationship who feel like they’ve been deceived. Dating in polyamorous circles is much simpler, even if the pool is smaller. You wind up dating people who know how to relationship, communicate, manage their emotions & jealousy, etc.
Sw**** Posted August 13 We're a poly couple and we recently lost our third. It's important that In a poly there is communication and understanding. But after living this life for a year yes we're looking for another.
Deleted Member Posted August 22 I was brought up in a poly situation until I was 13. To me it was normal that everyone loved everyone. I struggled a bit as a young adult dealing with the monogomus expectation of society around me. I found what works for me is only two partners (they can have as many or as few partners as suits them).
Ti**** Posted August 25 All of my poly relationships were the best and a bit of bad, but the bad was easier to deal with as a group. All my monogamous relationships have been the most damaging and taxing. The only reason im not in a polyquell now is I move around alot for work. I still stay intouch with my old friends from past poly relationships. Yet my monogamous exs ghosted me. No I never cheated while in a single relationship.
Fo**** Posted August 26 I'm not gonna lie. There's a part of me that thinks it would be fun to explore, but I also don't understand how jealousy wouldn't be an issue. Perhaps it means I'm insecure, but I imagine I would struggle with that a great deal.
LA**** Posted August 30 Tonight, I have one relationship that is important to me that's in a slight turmoil. I wasn't able to focus as hard on making another from meeting new people because she was so hard on my mind and I missed her. I guess that's normal, though.
Ne**** Posted August 30 what is a polyamorous group I'm seriously curious. I read some dynamics of family, table, group but to hear it from someone who is actually in it would be helpful?
Re**** Posted September 1 Polyamorous doesn't imply a group dynamic. It is loving multiple people and nurturing those relationships at the same time. Anything without that very important aspect is ethical non-manogomy (ENM ).
Pu**** Posted September 3 Poly relationships are in a lot of cases just extremely natural. But they definitely have to come from a place of trust.
ge**** Posted October 8 Given my recent experience they take a lot of management and trust by all concerned - sadly when that's not there, they're liable to blow up spectacularly in your face
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