Question for Dom's

[Ei****]

I once heard with great power comes great responsibility.

[Deleted Member]

The first person any Dom must master is themselves. Then, treating any other person with respect is just a natural flow of your own mastery of self control. Being disrespectful is not a sign of dominance. Maintaining good boundaries and order is.

[He****]

If things were truly talked about in the beginning of how the dynamic of the relationship is going to be set. Then the treatment is already in you and the Sub agreement 🫱🏾‍🫲🏻

[vs****]

Comment and communication are the keys to a relationship where one person gives power to another. If both parties discuss and agree then there should plenty of respect and caring outside of the private sphere

[Jo****]

Yes you are right about the way a Dom should be but it also depends on what kink you are involved with at the time. Basically you should be what you said unless your sub asks for something different aka *** and things of that nature.

[Wh****]

It's an unfortunate reality that classically trained and practicing Doms are an endangered species, so the number of potential Subs that encounter a bad "dom" or have a negative experience is ever increasing.

respectfully, I don't think the question is directly addressed in the other comments.

I agree with OP. A Dom by definition is the Sub's caretaker regardless of the scene or dynamic. Their consensual submission hands you a proxy (like loco parentis) so keep that in mind folks.

As for respect, that should be a given regardless, mutually and generously always.

[em****]

October 12, Deleted profile said:

The scary thing is, when an inexperienced sub falls in with an inexperienced and untrained Dom,it's downright DANGEROUS!! And potentially damaging and scaring for the Sub on sooooo many levels..
I get so worried any time I hear a baby sub say they are looking for a daddy,or Dom, or whatever.. because I know that they don't know enough to ask the right questions, or to see the red flags as they start going up!!
It's my first instinct to wanna take them up under me, but unfortunately that's not the way it works...

As a baby sub this is my ***, what would be questions and red flags to consider?

[Wa****]

There is a description that was read to me a long time ago which was goes : as a sub begins to trust in the Dom and the dynamic. She will begin to free up responsibility .the Dom if He does choose to accept it i’ll take on the responsibilities on the shall continue. This will grow the electricity and energy that passes between these two will grow within the anticipation and knowledge that one cannot exist without the other within that dynamic.

[Wh****]

@empathicwater
check into their history and experience through their social media footprint, postings, profiles, etc.
do they sound professional, respectful, and serious? have they been a Dom long enough? a proper Dom will never come on like a jerk. use common sense and trust your gut.

[Th****]

It's not an issue with dominants, it's an issue with men. No matter if I was a submissive, or now that I'm a dominant; men have always demanded things from me no matter their role.

[je****]

@TheMacabreBrat I can see how that would be a problem. I don't like presumptuous people either: it feels like they feel entitled to your attention without question. I get self- confidence but demanding? I walk away.

[Da****]

I treat my princess like well a princess. She makes a home a home, even if I didn't chores for her to do she will find something to do. I work, pay the bills, and in return she makes me food that always tastes good, and even if it doesn't I pretend it does because her smile of being so proud of herself makes me happy. And in return for her hard work, she gets whatever she wants within reason. She has her rules, punishments, and rewards, but she also always gets respect. Nobody else can disrespect her either, and when we met I let her know that yes I was dominant and she laughed at the idea of being tamed. I didn't immediately start barking orders at her because she is a person first and foremost.

[Da****]

I slowly walked her into my world and I walked into hers as well. I tested the waters with what she was comfortable with and uncomfortable with and what she wasnt comfortable with, we didn't do anymore.

[Da****]

I don't understand how it could be so hard to treat your partner like she's not a person.

[SF****]

Your sub should know they are safe when th

[Si****]

For me respect of the person starts with respect of the dynamic. Whatever t&c you have for your dynamic (be it a 24/7 TPE contract, or a scene description with agree limits), respect of those boundaries leads to respect of the person. Respect of a person means fulfilling their wishes, even if that means consensually degrading them. I believe this is one of the reasons the vanilla world can't wrap their heads around kink. How can you respect someone when you call them bad names. Understand the rules first junior.

[Mi****]

It sounds like roles need to be defined better. Both treating them like a person is right of course if that’s what you were able to agree to at the beginning… of the sub/dom relationship. but what if the premise of it is to be bit more extreme, if the sub requests to be treated like a horny lil dog in heat . If you th agree with type of interaction then you might consider that less,
Trust and purpose are most important for the sub.
Trust and control are the most important for the dom

[Am****]

Yes respect needs to be shown at times. I find most subs need to be respected in their though want and need and if you show that their willing to try and meet you half way, try things your into but it might not be her favorite