Love & Kink

[La****]

Is Love a part of Kink or is it more a product of the connection you gain from your kink being fulfilled? I often ask my self if love is real or if the feelings we identify as love are merely feeling understood and having complementary needs to another person(s). The same goes for kink are we simply chasing someone(s) who's fantasies are in balance or even opposition to ours? So is love a part of kink or are they in a way the same thing when you break it to its core?

[Ma****]

For me, it is two different things. Frequently overlapping. But not where one is required for the other. To me, I would say love and King, is about the same as polyamory and BDSM. You often see them together. And they often pair well together. However it is entirely possible to have either one without the other.
That being said comma it is pretty amazing when they do together, and overlap each other. I would even go so far as to say that love and King can certainly help support each other.
But I have experienced kinky play, and have seen and no many others, that experience kinky play without Amorous love.

Something else that's worth considering, too, is how does one distinguish love, from infatuation? I think that in King, as well as vanilla life, infatuation is more than likely the first emotion that arises. After all there's no way to know a lot about a person, right at the start. And depending on how you define love, if love is caring deeply for someone, despite their flaws, then that is damn near impossible at the beginning. So if must be something else, very likely it is infatuation.
But I think I straight away from the original question, with that last little point.

[Ba****]

Touch is my absolute sign of love ..public or not I will let people know with hand in hand or lower back or ass even ... Fetish yes .. kink ofcourse. Find someone willing to see what touch can do to her body no matter where

[Ma****]

Please put in the weird word usage, above.
I.e. King or tank --> kink.

I was using voice to text

[Ma****]

(Omg)
Put --> pardon

[Ma****]

Ahhh, one of those days for me and my phone.😂😂😂

[mr****]

I think someone with a kink automatically has it attached to their love. I think someone can love without having the kink fulfilled but I think having a kink fulfilled is simply one of the most effective ways to make someone feel as those they can expose their most *** and disgusting or perverted sides and have it either catered to or coddled.

[Ro****]

Love can be separate or involved in the kink. It depends on the people involved and their dynamic. Some people confuse attachment or infatuation with love. With that said, I can definitely understand if love evolves from the act of being understood and having that complementary needs. I have been there myself. The only way to figure it out is to talk it over with the person involved.

[Ta****]

Completely depends on the person, in my opinion. Some people get off on absolutely no emotional connection. Some have to have complete emotional connection. And some, if not most, float somewhere in between. Everyone has different ideas on what love is and how they express it. And some don’t believe in love at all. Love is “an intense feeling of deep affection”. Kink is an “unconventional sexual practice, concept or fantasy”. So when it comes to the 2 of them together, it really depends on whether or not a person needs an emotional connection to enjoy the sex. Everyone is different. Just my thoughts though.

[Deleted Member]

No/yes , love comes in different subcategories. For , "the connection you gain from your kink being fulfilled." I would break that down into 2 subjects. One ,the love that is found in a couple or long time lovers ,in kink. Can find that love for each other for fulfilling their desire kink fetishist but the love is BIGGER then you can imagine, if not found it yet. Once you do , you will understand the difference. Next is just pure love for kink and lifestyle. Believe, most of us adore admire and love bdsm and all different lifestyles out there. BUT not hard love for people .They adore and appreciate the company, and time together, they might cherish it but nothing more .Love is really when the heart can feel *** . Without ***, there is no love,without love, there is no *** .If you get tears drops and not sadness you found love .Not the same in my eyes ,sorry . Sorry if not explain well ,I'm not used to trying this and using my brain . Even though I desire and always have random deep thoughts .adhd baby! Not kink baby just a thing ,sorry .

[Deleted Member]

It's a mixed bag if you ask me cause there is alot more of separation being a dom. Like I totally feel like when I am being a pleasure dom I feel more connected to the person than with bdsm.

[Deleted Member]

Love is a huge part of kink. If it’s not involved it’s not being done correctly.
Just my experience and opinion.

[Deleted Member]

Love is the reason, why kink is. The reason why kink, flourishes. Without the connection of love, theres just vanilla monotony. Kinks creates passion, effort, excitement. Yes love is an indescribably emotion to feel and having for another soul, one that walks among us but out of the many, their heart sings to you. Old homage of give and take, take and give, universally, align us all. Love just raises every atom of our being to truly feel euphoric. We either chase, deny, indulge, in kinks because it makes us feel the love, we want to feel. It also create an acceptance to the aspect of allowing others share how they want love to be felt. In the end love is reason why we are able to even kink. Or I'm just sick in head and Ive missed my medications 🤣.

[Deleted Member]

I can say for myself at least, that I have experienced love without kink, and kink without love, but the strongest and longest love lasted with kink being involved but also ended because our kinks were parallel and she desired opposition

[Sp****]

I tend to compartmentalize love from kink.. If I don't detach, I have too many feelings.. Unless the kink is with someone I loved before the kink. Or I allow it in and it grows along side the kink.

[vi****]

I think you may have asked the question and answered it all in one! When that connection is there nothing can stop it. I also think it’s more about what you’re looking for and, what are you missing out of your life!

[Ja****]

Peraonally i believe they are separate entities. But i believe each are enhanced by the other.

[Nj****]

Love is justification to be.. it just makes ppl feel good about what they are doing, in my opinion

[vs****]

I believe they can be separate, but with the right relationship and commitment they can exist together and become a wonderful thing. Because if you love your slave, dom or bottom and you both want to make it grow and develop with the kink, then the depths you go are only limited by you.

[Lo****]

Love is real. It is not a part of kink, you can have love without kink and kink without love. However, when together they both enrich and deepen the bond, intensifying things.

[Ph****]

Nothing starts out as love. It can develop, be the byproduct of a kink relationship, or just a moment of self satisfaction. Some people LOVE their kinks, others can't feel whole without it and love the fact someone can give them that experience. Everyone and every dynamic is it's own. Some yearn for love, and need that to be a part of it. Others can go without feeling and have more surface/superficial kinky fun

[Da****]

Actually a result of the base and foundation of love making the kink even better, The kink doesn't enable the love. It should be there preceding it... If the connection is right.

[Ki****]

I think it depends on your kink, really. For me, an ethical, altruistic hedonist/ sensualist (sapio along with demi) Love is the eventuality of kink; a progressive symptom of a functional partner or partners. And it comes fairly quickly to me, naturally.

But then, the things that I like to do are things that pamper and are somewhat of an emotional magnet, whether intended to be or not. Like, something I love to do is give baths or an hour long body massages (ie total exploration...) and eventually sight deprivation in unfamiliar locations (because without sight, your mind stretches out with its other senses) which are all things that relax a person, and where they require a bit of trust (or adventurism) to begin with, the trust and ind canividual, interpersonal comfort can't help to grow, That level of intimacy builds by a certain level of care and concern that will, by its own nature, evolve into whatever kind of love it is able to.

Basically, if I fuck you half a dozen times, it'll hurt to quit.

[Da****]

Kink is spicy salsa, Love is a big fat burrito. Both of them taste nice, but if you think salsa is nice, you should try it on a nice burrito, and if you think you are enjoying a life of fulfilling fat burritos, you haven't tasted shit until you've had them slathered in your favorite salsa.

[Po****]

Love can be a fuel for kink but it isn’t a prerequisite. Love provides a different level of trust.