Is Aftercare optional to you?

[wo****]

A curiosity question I have for some masochists/prey out there; is aftercare optional for you? As in, is there certain types of play that make you want to forgo/not desire aftercare? I'm a bit green to kink, so I really wanna know.

[Deleted Member]

It's definitely not an option. After care is essential to me as a prey. I like it because my Dom/domme always praises me for how good I was and it's very nice to have that after care after a session

[My****]

Not optional especially based on any physical stress you put on your baby girl

[Sc****]

Not advisable to forgo the aftercare , its part of most subs needs , quality after care . For me it's when I praise my sub for all the effort she puts forth to please me

[SissyPuppers]

I would agree... It is so cathartic I can't see a good reason to not. And if an Owner is really bonded it should likely be a positive experience for them. A chance for both of T/them to grow closer emotionally...

[No****]

Is it optional for you?

[Li****]

Sorry that's definitely not optional in my book.

[AJ****]

It should never be optional on either side. Aftercare strengthens the bond and makes sure that both parties have been taken care of mentally and physically. It helps with possible come downs and gives a chance for the dom to show appreciation for the gift their sub has given them.

[Ma****]

No.

[Deleted Member]

Aftercare is a requirement for me. It helps me feel less like a horrible person after hurting someone. Plus caring for any wounds helps ease my anxiety 

[Deleted Member]

For Me, it’s like being in an incomplete relationship .. one in which some desired aspects are present and may be wonderful, but something else that’s required overall is absent. Not entirely disimilar to a dysfunctional or perhaps ab*sive entanglement…
Maybe the sex is amazing but the partner is emotionally devoid. Like that.
So my answer is a resounding NO to aftercare being optional.

[wo****]

Thank you all for your answers. I feel much the same (that aftercare is significant) but was curious to know if there was a level of play where something like aftercare was completely absent as part of the play itself. 🥰 You're all lovely, tysm.

[ey****]

Generally.

Aftercare can only be omitted if it's not required. And... *really* not required.

For example, some subs prefer to process things alone (which is arguably, aftercare in itself) and some play you feel physically and mentally fine - and so less requirement.

Regardless: you should assume it's a requirement and discussions on aftercare are parts of scene negotiation.