Why not anal?

[Lu****]

The target audience for this query is ladies who have anal listed as a no go. 
 

I must admit that I do like to read your profiles in full.  I’m particularly interested to also see the “no go” areas and note that “anal” is often a no go. 
 

That’s fine ; I respect limits. 
 

But I’m wondering why specifically is anal a common no go?  
 

Is it because it’s historically been seen as taboo or is it considered unclean or maybe ***ful ?  
 

Also I wonder if the no go is based on actual experience (i.e.  tried, tested and did not enjoy) or just an impression ? 

I guess everyone is different so I look forward to receiving a wide variety of responses ! 
 

Thanks for taking the time ! 
Have fun, stay safe 
 

Luke x

[Deleted Member]

Honestly I use to be a no go girl, mostly because who I tried it with didn't know how to properly complete the task lol until I found someone who did ☺️🤤

[Deleted Member]

Personally is a limit till I trust that person unquestionably. I was with someone abusive when I was younger who “slipped” rammed it in and caused tearing and ***.. allot of it. It understandably traumatised me done it once since but he wasn’t into it and I didn’t overly enjoy it and not trusted someone enough since

[Deleted Member]

Poor thing.thats horrible

[Deleted Member]

7 minutes ago, kingston766721 said:

Lots of lube and relax.🥵

Definitely. Both parties have to be hot and ready like Little Caesars lol

[Deleted Member]

Anal is very uncomfortable for me for various reasons. Mainly because IBS. Anal is IBS' worst friend 

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[Lu****]

6 minutes ago, kinkybitchsc said:

Personally is a limit till I trust that person unquestionably. I was with someone abusive when I was younger who “slipped” rammed it in and caused tearing and ***.. allot of it. It understandably traumatised me done it once since but he wasn’t into it and I didn’t overly enjoy it and not trusted someone enough since

Sorry to hear that but thanks for sharing

Luke x

[Lu****]

1 minute ago, TheMacabreBrat said:

Anal is very comfortable for me for various reasons. Mainly because IBS. Anal is IBS' worst friend 

I hadn’t considered that ! Thanks for making the point ! 
 

Luke x

[Starving]

My wife loves anal play but did not initially! She actually loves it now but requires a lot of lube! She loves me to cum inside! I love to go balls deep in her ass! She has also asked me to *** inside her ass as well which I plan on doing! That should be fun! I have also told her I want to eat my cum out of her! 
I would love to be pegged by her but she has not done that yet. She does use her fingers and dildoes on me which i thoroughly enjoy! She loves to give me prostate orgasms! 

[Ca****]

Have no personal knowledge but, a women a used to hook up with told me there were 2 kinds of women in the world.. those that take it the ass, and those that don’t know they take it in the ass.. can’t say that’s true, but that’s what she believed.

[bl****]

I've never done anal with a partner, but I do occasionally fuck myself with a dildo. lots of lube is needed though. I'm not sure if I'd try it with a partner. i have trouble with having vaginal sex in general as I can't naturally lubricate due to medications

[Vi****]

I actually fell in the shower as a child and have scar tissue thee, so it really ***ful for me, but I'm sure everyone has their own personal reasons.

[Vi****]

***full*

[cs****]

My guess would be poor past performances. A lot of guys suck and just want to stick it in. Spit on it and go to town so to speak. It's something you really have to work up to, especially if someone hasn't fully mentally opened up to the idea of it possibly being a pleasurable experience. What I've found is if you can show that your sole intention is on providing pleasure and actually providing that it helps open up the conversation around attempts at incorporating anal play.

[Lu****]

3 hours ago, Starving said:

My wife loves anal play but did not initially! She actually loves it now but requires a lot of lube! She loves me to cum inside! I love to go balls deep in her ass! She has also asked me to *** inside her ass as well which I plan on doing! That should be fun! I have also told her I want to eat my cum out of her! 
I would love to be pegged by her but she has not done that yet. She does use her fingers and dildoes on me which i thoroughly enjoy! She loves to give me prostate orgasms! 

Sounds like you have lots of fun. 
I note your wife wasn’t initially into anal - did she give a reason? 
 

I'm pleased for you that you were able to find multiple ways to enjoy it ! 
 

Luke 

[Lu****]

3 hours ago, blasphemousbunny said:

I've never done anal with a partner, but I do occasionally fuck myself with a dildo. lots of lube is needed though. I'm not sure if I'd try it with a partner. i have trouble with having vaginal sex in general as I can't naturally lubricate due to medications

Thanks for your reply. 
I’m pleased that you’re able to have some fun even if on your own.  Maybe one day you’ll find a way to share with someone special, but not to worry if not and you can continue with self love. 
 

I note the common theme of plenty of lube ! 
 

Play safe. Stay safe. 
 

Luke x

[Lu****]

3 hours ago, VivColumbus25 said:

I actually fell in the shower as a child and have scar tissue thee, so it really ***ful for me, but I'm sure everyone has their own personal reasons.

Oh dear ! 
Sounds like an inconvenience you just have to live with. 
 

I hadn’t considered accidents to be a reason so thanks for adding that to the list. 
 

Take care ! 
 

Luke x 

[Lu****]

2 hours ago, cs19904 said:

My guess would be poor past performances. A lot of guys suck and just want to stick it in. Spit on it and go to town so to speak. It's something you really have to work up to, especially if someone hasn't fully mentally opened up to the idea of it possibly being a pleasurable experience. What I've found is if you can show that your sole intention is on providing pleasure and actually providing that it helps open up the conversation around attempts at incorporating anal play.

That makes sense ! 
Maybe watching too many porn movies might be a reason for thinking it’s a “spit and in” job ?

Good to mention the mental aspects and talking with your partner ! 
 

Luke 

 

[Lu****]

10 hours ago, Lsmart938 said:

The target audience for this query is ladies who have anal listed as a no go. 
 

I must admit that I do like to read your profiles in full.  I’m particularly interested to also see the “no go” areas and note that “anal” is often a no go. 
 

That’s fine ; I respect limits. 
 

But I’m wondering why specifically is anal a common no go?  
 

Is it because it’s historically been seen as taboo or is it considered unclean or maybe ***ful ?  
 

Also I wonder if the no go is based on actual experience (i.e.  tried, tested and did not enjoy) or just an impression ? 

I guess everyone is different so I look forward to receiving a wide variety of responses ! 
 

Thanks for taking the time ! 
Have fun, stay safe 
 

Luke x

Some great replies so far.  
Thanks to everyone who’s opened up and shared ! 
 

Hopefully more responses to come ! 🤞

 

Luke 

[Starving]

3 hours ago, Lsmart938 said:

Sounds like you have lots of fun. 
I note your wife wasn’t initially into anal - did she give a reason? 
 

I'm pleased for you that you were able to find multiple ways to enjoy it ! 
 

Luke 

Thank  you! ! I guess she never thought about it when we were dating and early married years but later on really got turned on about the idea! Yes she really loves anal play and do do I! She loves roll playing and she pretends to be a nurse or doctor and loves giving me anal exams and rimming! Thank you 

[Lu****]

11 minutes ago, Starving said:

Thank  you! ! I guess she never thought about it when we were dating and early married years but later on really got turned on about the idea! Yes she really loves anal play and do do I! She loves roll playing and she pretends to be a nurse or doctor and loves giving me anal exams and rimming! Thank you 

Wow!  

Tbh - I got a little twitch there ☺️

That sounds great ! 
You’re a lucky guy to have exactly what you want and that you both enjoy it together.  

[Starving]

5 minutes ago, Lsmart938 said:

Wow!  

Tbh - I got a little twitch there ☺️

That sounds great ! 
You’re a lucky guy to have exactly what you want and that you both enjoy it together.  

Thank you so much! 

[Deleted Member]

Have you yourself experienced anal sex?

[Lu****]

25 minutes ago, NexumSange said:

Have you yourself experienced anal sex?

Good question ! 

No I have not. 
I previously mentioned the other pegging post and I did add a couple of replies on that.  

In short I do enjoy anal self pleasure now and then ( I have to be in the mood). But it does disable my ability to get an erection, so it’s a give and take thing for me.  
I would consider letting the right lady to give me a pegging!  
 

[fr****]

For me, it’s medical reasons.
IBS, haemorrhoids, (even had surgery for it) and the uncleanliness. As a person with autoimmune disorders, that along with watersports, rimming or any other bathroom related kinks, can lead to an early grave and I am a Kinkster who want to continue my kinky life for as long as I can. I have tried it nonetheless, when younger. Didn’t enjoy it at all.
It didn’t end well!

Butt plugs though, those are perfectly safe taking the right precautions.
(unless the haemorrhoids are acting up)

Thing is, those are my only hard limits. But people think that just because those are hard limits, they automatically think I’m “not kinky enough” for this lifestyle. Which is how I know they’re not experienced enough to handle me. It’s rather boring to talk to people who thinks in this way for me, they always try to bypass it, negotiate, demand or sometimes even take without consent. As if their pleasure is worth more then my life. They are simply not respecting my health at all and think I’m joking. Laughing at me for even having any hard limits.

I do like watching porn with anal scenes in them though, so living vicariously through them I guess. I wish I did enjoy it, and was in a better place health wise to perform rimming and watersports as an act of service.

Just giving you some real reasons why some people have it as an actual hard limits. Ie Life :)