Spicing up marriage - with others

[lo****]

Who wants to offer advice on how to use others to kink up a marriage ?

[DP****]

Be honest with each other about your deepest desires and then find someone who respects boundaries. I’ve been invited to join couples by about 6-8 couples and they all have different boundaries. For example one always requires condoms so I respect that.

[Deleted Member]

Talk about it. I mean really talk about it. Most people in long term relationships are very hesitant to reveal what they want because they feel embarrassed. Just talk and be open to explore.

[Lu****]

Be spontaneous, know your limits and use your imagination

[ta****]

My wife and I have sperate sex lives we love each other very much and we value each other it was scary at first but it seems to be working out well as long as you set strict boundaries with your feelings and emotions with others you should be fine

[No****]

100% talk about it with your partner. I can't count the amount of wonderful, kinky chats I've had with my wife after a few drinks and we start talking about how much our kinks have changed, grown, or that we want to try something completely out of left field.

[pa****]

58 minutes ago, MarkedManSC said:

Talk about it. I mean really talk about it. Most people in long term relationships are very hesitant to reveal what they want because they feel embarrassed. Just talk and be open to explore.

Could not have said it better!!💖💖

[sy****]

Do a mfm 3some for her

[ma****]

Honestly if you both want it go for it now the truth bomb bloke mostly gets jealous and wont do it again while woman loves it a lot of men cant handle it x

[Deleted Member]

Quite a vague question, do you mean spice it up for you outside of your marriage with others & is that with or without permission? Or, spice it up for you & your partner together, with others?

[Deleted Member]

Make sure that your spouse is enthusiastic about it. Talk about it. Expectations, limits, rules, everything. Usually opening up your marriage kills it.

Also keep in mind that women are able to find men easier than men finding women.

[ey****]

how do you (both) feel others would help spice up the marriage?

[co****]

Make sure it's wat u both want n that u know nothing sneaky would go on

[Deleted Member]

Make damn sure who you bring in will really respect your marriage. I actually left a group because I could tell the husband was getting a little too into me and the wife wasn’t okay with it anymore.

[ja****]

I don't think USING people to spice up your marriage is ethical. People aren't kink dispensers.

[r3****]

Get a proper unicorn 🦄
One who can support both the husband and wife’s needs , sexually and casually without forming an emotional attachment . A proper unicorn will only strengthen and improve a couples bond. We are not here to cause jealousy or divorce
Thats not what the intents & purposes or outcome should be of joining a couple, if you are a proper 🦄 that is , Js

Communication and honesty between all three parties is very effective to deter becoming over intimate with one or the other. Your best to not do it if u can’t understand how to strengthen the couple. Unicorns arnt thrilled to be part of the relationship dynamics or are not there to be a throuple… that a whole different mindset - find ur own man!!
Know your place, or don’t try to be a unicorn , that’s all .

I’m sure my opinion or stance on what a unicorn is will rub someone the wrong way …so I ask - keep ur rude comments to yourself. Positivity only please. Alls I kno is i have never caused a split … ever. I have only made some great friends by helping to heal and/or nurture some beautiful relationships , in my experiences as a unicorn ..

That’s how I see it what adding some kink to a marriage is about. Thanks!! 😊

this is my view on what a unicorn should be , that’s all.

[st****]

Dp

[fa****]

Mmf is good anytime and fun

[pa****]

From personal experience, go out of town-- Vegas, somewhere exciting and have a threesome with someone you don't know, or at least not in the same town. 😜💦🥰🫶

[pl****]

@panama-city488198 totally agree someone u have never seen before or will again. It gets the partners to reconnect while they use the 3rd to their advantage and it allows to take the personal feelings out of the scenario and just the two focus on having the best time of their lives. This is just my opinion and has worked out best (for me)

[Fu****]

Don’t do it with out setting guidelines

[Qu****]

That seems like it’s something that should be discussed with the 3d involved. They need to feel comfortable, and are ultimately looking to gain from this interaction as well.
Be sure that this isn’t just you, and your wife’s plaything without any regard to what the 3rd wants out of the situation. Beyond the talks of the rarity of the mythical unicorn I think that’s probably as big of, or maybe even a larger limiting factor for couples wanting to add a 3rd.
If you two can’t, or don’t want to take that into account then perhaps a Vegas trip is in order.

[ha****]

Exactly what pleasurenewbie said to 100 worked for me

[DO****]

Let your husband get cucked

[Deleted Member]

March 15, Nomdeguerre_ said:

100% talk about it with your partner. I can't count the amount of wonderful, kinky chats I've had with my wife after a few drinks and we start talking about how much our kinks have changed, grown, or that we want to try something completely out of left field.

I love this comment! I’m trying to bring some spice into my 24 year relationship and need to get my husband to open up about his kinks. I’m completely an open book but that scares him. He is embarrassed to discuss this. And, no drinks for us so it’s hard to get him to open up. May have to have the help of a sex therapist to get him comfortable.