Body image issues

[Deleted Member]

Nothing wrong with you as you are

[Pr****]

Yesterday at 12:54 AM, allforfun420 said:

Honestly if you don't like the way you look not that what anyone else thinks matters but in my experience if you dont like it then change it girl I don't understand why ppl can't take a whole 15min a day to look the way they want it's really not hard I mean realy it's 15min

For most of us, like myself, it's not something that can be covered by makeup. Plus not all of us use makeup. But to be honest you might want to rethink your wording, it can come off as rude sometimes. Not saying that was your intent or anything but it came off rude.

[Pr****]

Yesterday at 12:47 AM, KinkyFun0101 said:

Princess, my precious baby girl. You are absolutely amazing, you have been doing so well with being more comfortable with yourself. I'm glad to see you reaching out to others as well, it can certainly be good to hear it from others and not just me, because we both know I'm biased and could never find any fault in you, appearance or otherwise.

And yes, the sudden influx of attention certainly made your anxiety spike, but you handled it very well and did so well with replying to people. I'm VERY proud of you. Keep your head up and I'm always sitting next to you when you need a break from things and cuddles to make you feel better. I look forward to seeing you interact more and making new friends along the way. Don't ever think you can't do something, I have faith in you and I know you're capable of more than you think. Don't ever think less of yourself. You are amazing and beautiful beyond anything I could imagine I would have the opportunity to love. You have made me a better person by caring for you and helping you with your own issues. I hope that you understand that. Take this as your sign that you are far more than anything that you were told before you met me. It's only because of you that I am a better person, now let's work on you believing in yourself even more. ❤️ I love you Princess. Don't you ever forget that.

I love you daddy, your the absolute best.

[OB****]

When the Marines have anxiety they do something called box breathing. It reduces anxiety and it works. You can find tutorials on YouTube.

[Deleted Member]

I honestly have found therapy and working on myself to be the biggest help in dealing with this. Getting to the root of the thoughts and learning where they came from has helped me tremendously in combatting my anxious feelings. There's lots of tips for coping that can be found online like breathwork, meditation, limiting social media usage, wearing clothes that actually make you feel good, not drinking, etc. I still struggle with the way I look and anxiety around being single and getting attention/being seen. I see that you do have a Daddy so maybe they may be able to help you as well?

[Pr****]

48 minutes ago, LiddoJoon said:

I honestly have found therapy and working on myself to be the biggest help in dealing with this. Getting to the root of the thoughts and learning where they came from has helped me tremendously in combatting my anxious feelings. There's lots of tips for coping that can be found online like breathwork, meditation, limiting social media usage, wearing clothes that actually make you feel good, not drinking, etc. I still struggle with the way I look and anxiety around being single and getting attention/being seen. I see that you do have a Daddy so maybe they may be able to help you as well?

My daddy does help me but when it comes to people other than him it's weird. I'm not use to it. I'm to use to people telling me I'm fat, ugly, unlovable, all I'm good for is a pitty f**k. I've had people tell me that I'm better off dead, to go kill myself, etc.

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, PrincessMidnight0101 said:

My daddy does help me but when it comes to people other than him it's weird. I'm not use to it. I'm to use to people telling me I'm fat, ugly, unlovable, all I'm good for is a pitty f**k. I've had people tell me that I'm better off dead, to go kill myself, etc.

I have unfortunately experienced the same in the same and have had to overcome many things because of it. I do highly recommend therapy to work through these issues and learn some coping mechanisms that could work for you. Breathwork used to help when I would panic several years ago but its not something I use outside of that. Besides therapy, I'd recommend diving into any hobbies you have and joining clubs/groups for those hobbies and talking with people in those spaces. It may help if you're having any issues with confidence.

[Pr****]

4 hours ago, LiddoJoon said:

I have unfortunately experienced the same in the same and have had to overcome many things because of it. I do highly recommend therapy to work through these issues and learn some coping mechanisms that could work for you. Breathwork used to help when I would panic several years ago but its not something I use outside of that. Besides therapy, I'd recommend diving into any hobbies you have and joining clubs/groups for those hobbies and talking with people in those spaces. It may help if you're having any issues with confidence.

Thank you

[bi****]

I think the best way to cope with this is to just have an increase in body contact. Cuddling holding hands sitting close feet in his lap. The more familiar you are with his hands and eyes on your body the more comfortable you'll become and it'll be something special between the two of you

[TimtheMerciless]

On 3/19/2025 at 9:21 PM, PrincessMidnight0101 said:

Hey so I'm a little with major body image issues that sometimes gets in the way of things, I'm not sure how to cope with getting attention that I'm not use to getting and it sometimes makes my anxiety spike. Anyone have any advice on ideas of how to cope

I'm a man and I can stay that most ( but not as guys) do not need perfection. The sexiest lady I know isn't perfect -

AND SHE ACTS LIKE SHE IS LOVING IT.

 

I'm not saying a person can just decide to be liked that overnight. But anybody can decide that they will enjoy being themselves a bit more.

Don't copy other people -just roll with what works for your personality.  

More than half of sexiness is attitude 

I'm a big believer in listening to Darren Brown self hypnosis and guided positive affirmations.  They are not a magic bullet but they make me more confident and positive.

Have some confidence in your own ability to change and relax slowly over time. 

 

Remember - other people have problems too - insecurities after very common. It's not just you .

 

Not everybody is sympathetic. But most people will be sympathetic and rooting for you. 

 

I know this sounds crazy - but develop a fun kink superhero name for yourself and maybe don't even don't tell anybody what it is.  Like Baby gorgeous or Sub-alicuos, naughty kitty etc.

 

Use that name for yourself when you are enjoying your kink . When things go wrong say to yourself > INSERT REAL NAME< is having a bad day today, but really when she is getting herself , she is > insert your kink superheroine name <.

 

In reality you are a bit of both. So remembering that might be fun ⭐

 

 

 

 

 

[TimtheMerciless]

On 3/19/2025 at 9:21 PM, PrincessMidnight0101 said:

Hey so I'm a little with major body image issues that sometimes gets in the way of things, I'm not sure how to cope with getting attention that I'm not use to getting and it sometimes makes my anxiety spike. Anyone have any advice on ideas of how to cope?

 I SENT A MESSAGE WITH A SPELLING MISTAKE. Here's THE CORRECT VERSION

I'm a man and I can stay that most ( but not ALL guys) do not need perfection. The sexiest lady I know isn't perfect -

AND SHE ACTS LIKE SHE IS LOVING IT.

[Do****]

Friday at 06:13 PM, PrincessMidnight0101 said:

My daddy does help me but when it comes to people other than him it's weird. I'm not use to it. I'm to use to people telling me I'm fat, ugly, unlovable, all I'm good for is a pitty f**k. I've had people tell me that I'm better off dead, to go kill myself, etc.

I can see your beauty in your words. I know that those people suck. On a personal level, I say limit your time around them. When you see the red flags of toxicity, see them as warnings. Wall away, listen to your gut. It doesn't lie. I'm not trying to mama you, but it sounds like you may need some mama advice. One of my favorite mottos is: When a person shows you their true colors, believe them. Nobody is worth more than your own happiness. If they make you feel any other way, lose them, because honey, YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN THEY CAN OR WILL GIVE YOU. Give yourself the biggest hug and tell yourself you're beautiful until you believe it.

[Da****]

50 minutes ago, Dottie2Hottie said:

I can see your beauty in your words. I know that those people suck. On a personal level, I say limit your time around them. When you see the red flags of toxicity, see them as warnings. Wall away, listen to your gut. It doesn't lie. I'm not trying to mama you, but it sounds like you may need some mama advice. One of my favorite mottos is: When a person shows you their true colors, believe them. Nobody is worth more than your own happiness. If they make you feel any other way, lose them, because honey, YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN THEY CAN OR WILL GIVE YOU. Give yourself the biggest hug and tell yourself you're beautiful until you believe it.

Princess midnight said thank you very much and she really appreciates the advice. She's taking a momentary break from Fet but she should be back on tomorrow to thank you herself.

[Pr****]

16 hours ago, Dottie2Hottie said:

I can see your beauty in your words. I know that those people suck. On a personal level, I say limit your time around them. When you see the red flags of toxicity, see them as warnings. Wall away, listen to your gut. It doesn't lie. I'm not trying to mama you, but it sounds like you may need some mama advice. One of my favorite mottos is: When a person shows you their true colors, believe them. Nobody is worth more than your own happiness. If they make you feel any other way, lose them, because honey, YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THAN THEY CAN OR WILL GIVE YOU. Give yourself the biggest hug and tell yourself you're beautiful until you believe it.

I can't thank you enough for the kind words and advice. 

[Am****]

I have to walk the issue back- what's causing the anxiety about the attention? Wrong people sending alerts, or maybe you're not used to admiration and (positive) attention?
You are worthy and deserving of adoration.

[Da****]

55 minutes ago, AmbiguousKarma said:

I have to walk the issue back- what's causing the anxiety about the attention? Wrong people sending alerts, or maybe you're not used to admiration and (positive) attention?
You are worthy and deserving of adoration.

There are several things about it that cause her anxiety. While she's used to praise and adoration from me, she's not used to it from others. She was bullied and belittled quite often by her own family and ***rs since her childhood and is still belittled by them. Another part is that she received a very prominent influx of messages that also triggered her anxiety. There's also the issue of many of the men on here failing to either read her profile or respect it and making some very nasty comments or sending unsolicited pictures of things she doesn't want to see. She has really bad PTSD and anxiety from things that happened to her through her childhood and *** years that have left her emotionally scarred. She has done a lot of work in the 2.5 years we've been together, she has gotten a lot better since then, but it's still a huge mental battle for her every day just to post on certain platforms knowing there's a high probability of backlash by ignorant people in the community. Just yesterday she nearly broke down after some ignorant guy called her a pig in her DMs and blatantly refused to read her profile or respect the information in it. It's a battle every day, both on here and FetLife, of guys refusing to read or respect her profile and messaging her with absolutely disrespectful and disgusting things that she never asked for. It's causing her a lot of setbacks in her mental health and I do everything I can to prevent it and make her feel better about herself. I even handle a lot of the messages that she doesn't wanna see or deal with when it comes to those guys. She did say to let you know that if you had any further questions about this, you can message her directly if you'd like. It pertains to things she would rather not make public on a post, but she's willing to explain if you'd like to message her.

[Pr****]

5 minutes ago, DaddyLucifer0101 said:

There are several things about it that cause her anxiety. While she's used to praise and adoration from me, she's not used to it from others. She was bullied and belittled quite often by her own family and ***rs since her childhood and is still belittled by them. Another part is that she received a very prominent influx of messages that also triggered her anxiety. There's also the issue of many of the men on here failing to either read her profile or respect it and making some very nasty comments or sending unsolicited pictures of things she doesn't want to see. She has really bad PTSD and anxiety from things that happened to her through her childhood and *** years that have left her emotionally scarred. She has done a lot of work in the 2.5 years we've been together, she has gotten a lot better since then, but it's still a huge mental battle for her every day just to post on certain platforms knowing there's a high probability of backlash by ignorant people in the community. Just yesterday she nearly broke down after some ignorant guy called her a pig in her DMs and blatantly refused to read her profile or respect the information in it. It's a battle every day, both on here and FetLife, of guys refusing to read or respect her profile and messaging her with absolutely disrespectful and disgusting things that she never asked for. It's causing her a lot of setbacks in her mental health and I do everything I can to prevent it and make her feel better about herself. I even handle a lot of the messages that she doesn't wanna see or deal with when it comes to those guys. She did say to let you know that if you had any further questions about this, you can message her directly if you'd like. It pertains to things she would rather not make public on a post, but she's willing to explain if you'd like to message her.

Thank you daddy

[Da****]

12 minutes ago, PrincessMidnight0101 said:

Thank you daddy

You're welcome my Princess. You know I would do anything for you.

[ar****]

8 hours ago, DaddyLucifer0101 said:

There are several things about it that cause her anxiety. While she's used to praise and adoration from me, she's not used to it from others. She was bullied and belittled quite often by her own family and ***rs since her childhood and is still belittled by them. Another part is that she received a very prominent influx of messages that also triggered her anxiety. There's also the issue of many of the men on here failing to either read her profile or respect it and making some very nasty comments or sending unsolicited pictures of things she doesn't want to see. She has really bad PTSD and anxiety from things that happened to her through her childhood and *** years that have left her emotionally scarred. She has done a lot of work in the 2.5 years we've been together, she has gotten a lot better since then, but it's still a huge mental battle for her every day just to post on certain platforms knowing there's a high probability of backlash by ignorant people in the community. Just yesterday she nearly broke down after some ignorant guy called her a pig in her DMs and blatantly refused to read her profile or respect the information in it. It's a battle every day, both on here and FetLife, of guys refusing to read or respect her profile and messaging her with absolutely disrespectful and disgusting things that she never asked for. It's causing her a lot of setbacks in her mental health and I do everything I can to prevent it and make her feel better about herself. I even handle a lot of the messages that she doesn't wanna see or deal with when it comes to those guys. She did say to let you know that if you had any further questions about this, you can message her directly if you'd like. It pertains to things she would rather not make public on a post, but she's willing to explain if you'd like to message her.

Do you report those men who treat her disrespectful? I would imagine Fet should have zero tolerance for pigs like that who overstep not just boundaries, but universal social courtesy.

[Pr****]

1 hour ago, arnhem961 said:

Do you report those men who treat her disrespectful? I would imagine Fet should have zero tolerance for pigs like that who overstep not just boundaries, but universal social courtesy.

He does! He helps me deal with those men.

[Da****]

1 hour ago, arnhem961 said:

Do you report those men who treat her disrespectful? I would imagine Fet should have zero tolerance for pigs like that who overstep not just boundaries, but universal social courtesy.

Oh yes, they are berated for their disrespect and then reported and blocked for it. We do not play that game and try to make sure that they get dealt with by Fet because we don't want anyone to deal with that either. We have been informed by Fet that several of the ones we've reported have been taken care of for their remarks.

[tt****]

I have body dysmorphia cause I was bullied when I was 300 pounds and people always say they miss me when I was bigger but i honestly hated how I looked when I was fat and now that I’m skinny people still find a way with someone negative to say but it’s hard looking and the mirror and looking me for me

[Pr****]

1 hour ago, ttrustnxnex7 said:

I have body dysmorphia cause I was bullied when I was 300 pounds and people always say they miss me when I was bigger but i honestly hated how I looked when I was fat and now that I’m skinny people still find a way with someone negative to say but it’s hard looking and the mirror and looking me for me

That's kinda like what I'm dealing with now. Since trying to block out the negative people.

[cl****]

sorry. Dont know how this works yet. Responce to trustnx whatever, .....no disrespect, but,
You have to be confident and love urself before u could ever expect anyone to love u. And then, if no one else loves u, u can survive cause u know how to love urself. Y'all known the song I Will Survive by Gloria Gannor? If u dont, listen to it and become fierce

[bo****]

Just go for it and keep a open mind. Real and normal people have the same thoughts. Hey I have similar thoughts of insecurities that get in my way also.