What does it mean to want to repeatedly punch your partner during consensual sex

[momentomaru]

I'm confused. A friend of mine (a real one lol) just told me he fantasizes about punching his partner during sex (consensually, of course), and I'm curious as to whether it's healthy or it's been done before in a safe, healthy manner.

Would appreciate your feedback.

[gi****]

I mean as long as your only leaveint some light bruising at Max and both sides are ok with it. It just sounds like some good masochism

[Deleted Member]

It revolves around sadomasochism and yes can be explored safely with safe word in place

[Deleted Member]

The pleasure comes from receiving and giving ***

[Br****]

It can be explored safely. It can also be something that requires a bit of self-reflection. All depends on the individual. As usual, risk-aware consensual kink (RACK) to the fore. It’s also reading up a bit on trauma-informed kink, especially for a partner participating in something like this. Nothing bad but just to make sure people are prepared in case anything comes to the surface and fully armed with both aftercare and self-regulation techniques.

[Tackyman24]

It's an ego thing. They get a power rush from it

[DivineMystOG]

It all depends on his girlfriend. Most would not allow this .. maybe he starts off with counselling as to why he wants this.. would he stop if she allowed it.. would he stick to light ones and go at her pace.. if she revoked consent how would he feel.. would he just go out and find a new partner that he hits because once he's tried it he needs it to get off.. is he emotionally mature enough to stop if he starts.
This is the D of bdsm.. self discipline is key to embarking on impact type scenes.

[Tackyman24]

Well if dude couldn't restrain himself if she doesn't consent then it's *** and a dynamic shouldn't happen

[Furass]

It's not healthy. Is very risky and could end in serious *** and prison. It's a psychological problem stemming from a possible serious personality disorder.

[Er****]

I come across girls, here and another page I frequent, constantly, that ask me how violent I can get because that is what they are looking for. To be beaten senseless. So it's not so out there that we need to involve authorities. I never managed to satisfy those girls with my responses but they all confirmed that every previous relationship of theirs was physically abusive and for some fucked up reason they needed that again. This dude should seek a gf looking for what he's willing to deliver.

[sa****]

3 hours ago, Furass said:

It's not healthy. Is very risky and could end in serious *** and prison. It's a psychological problem stemming from a possible serious personality disorder.

I just want to throw my two cents in here, I understand your concern but look, we all have past experiences that inform our kinks, and while of course we hate to hear that someone was actually hurt in the past, that's not the same as being with someone who cares about them and would not do anything they don't want. You're not going to be able to change the past, and isn't it infinitely better for her to be understanding of the (unfortunate, in some senses) need she has for certain kinds of experiences, and therefore be able to find people who have related situations themselves who can support that -- it's so much healthier for her to be working through that in this way as opposed to being made to feel she's wrong somehow, just for being a way she can't help, and ending up in a seriously harmful relationship (as many women who aren't so self-aware or don't have access to a community like this)?