Pegging for beginners

[Vi****]

My man really wants to be pegged and I want to fulfill his fantasy, but I'm really nervous for some reason. Any advice?

[Subby9385]

Big dildo to start

[Couple1111]

I was really nervous too but if you know how you like it, you'll know how to give it!

[Deleted Member]

Start small like and slow. Then build up towards a comfortable size. But still he has to clean inside so no messes 🫣

[Deleted Member]

Use coconut oil as lube!! It is natural and safe! Also smells really good!! Start with a massage!

[me****]

It's not as scary as you think! start small with lots of lube and clean well and it should be fine. Will be very uncomfortable in the beginning and then get better
If he is too scared, just start with fingers first, i also started with fingers!

[Deleted Member]

Be the Turtle, not the Hare, relax, don't rush, take your time, start small & build up & use plenty of a suitable lube for anal.

[as****]

Relax, enjoy yourself and trust that it will be something you look back on and smile about afterwords.

[to****]

Butt plugs first

[Al****]

Spit

[dr****]

Just spit on it and shove it in

[Vi****]

46 minutes ago, meitho said:

It's not as scary as you think! start small with lots of lube and clean well and it should be fine. Will be very uncomfortable in the beginning and then get better
If he is too scared, just start with fingers first, i also started with fingers!

To clarify we have done anal play already with toys and fingers, it's not the *** part I'm nervous about. I know what we have to do to prepare. My concern is I get really shy and nervous about doing it when the time comes and I back out. Does anyone else get this way? I don't know how to get past it it's like I'm self conscious for some reason

[as****]

Why are you self conscious? Keep asking why and then answering your own questions until you reach root cause and then address that.

[My****]

Be gentle if you want to Keep doing it

[MM****]

I would advise he anally train first. Start small with plugs, fingers, or smaller sized toys. Move up in size from there. Let him get used to the sensations and being penetrated. If he has been doing that already and is used to all this then I'd still start off with smaller toys first. Go slow and easy with it. Once he relaxes and seems okay with it then you can move to the strap on. I def would advise water based ky jelly. I know there is all these anal desensitization lubes but I find they don't work all that well. Also regular lube is not advised.

[De****]

I like the Ann summers booty lube helps things slide in real easy but definitely start out small, and maybe get him to prep by douching xx

[Fe****]

Definitely go slow at first, and lots of lube! My ex gf made the mistake of just forcing it In and omg it was so ***ful.
Maybe try fingering him first, then move up from there. (Also recommend a small dildo, I used a thin 5 inch one and they still hurt my first couple times)

[ba****]

training wherls for the lucky guy

[fa****]

If it’s about you not getting pleasure talk to him and either have a toy that works for you during or ask for him to please you after

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, VivColumbus25 said:

To clarify we have done anal play already with toys and fingers, it's not the *** part I'm nervous about. I know what we have to do to prepare. My concern is I get really shy and nervous about doing it when the time comes and I back out. Does anyone else get this way? I don't know how to get past it it's like I'm self conscious for some reason

Do some role playing that puts you in the dominant position. Without the pressure of finishing with pegging the first few times. Maybe have the strap-on on during play. Make home obey you should feel more and more empowered overtime. And when you're ready tell him to bend that ass over.

[NerdyGiver]

3 hours ago, VivColumbus25 said:

To clarify we have done anal play already with toys and fingers, it's not the *** part I'm nervous about. I know what we have to do to prepare. My concern is I get really shy and nervous about doing it when the time comes and I back out. Does anyone else get this way? I don't know how to get past it it's like I'm self conscious for some reason

I was really nervous about butt stuff in general and my partner really helped me, and we worked our way up to it. But working up is easier than that One Thing My Partner Wants because that's a good chance it won't go quite that way and you don't want to disappoint.

I think it's worth addressing that specifically. Maybe trying for a short time without the expectation of a finish. Everything to take the pressure off.

Is that a big concern of yours? It sounds like you're happy with butt stuff in general... or do you feel uncomfortable with a strap on? Perhaps spending some time with that (and discovering that your partner really likes how it looks and gets excited by it even if you think it looks silly) might help?

[Falcon252]

Tie him up, Gag him and fuck his brains out. He will ether love it or never bring it up again.

[Yi****]

It depends on how much butt experience he has. There is a secret spot. the ultimate tight point of no return for his asshole. In the beginning it is very tight like your ass hole. *** is caused when you go past that point. But if you can tease him along with larger and larger objects he will keep wanting to succeed and seek even bigger thrills.

[To****]

8 hours ago, VivColumbus25 said:

To clarify we have done anal play already with toys and fingers, it's not the *** part I'm nervous about. I know what we have to do to prepare. My concern is I get really shy and nervous about doing it when the time comes and I back out. Does anyone else get this way? I don't know how to get past it it's like I'm self conscious for some reason

Douche well, lots of water based lube, use one of the strapless toys that also goes inside of you. As far as feeling embarrassed is it your embarrassed for yourself or for him? Discussion! Safe word! Message if you want to talk.

[CR****]

Seems like communication, trust and respect is lack7ng here. Y'all need to talk and see what the hiccup is.
Foreplay, warm up intimacy and LUBES research try and find out what works for him and you.
Secondly, don't be weirded out by it. It is natural and not a homosexual act. (NO OFFENSE). In this case he is totally into you and only you and wants you and feel all of the intimacy and ecstasy and your touch and control and respect that your mind and his desires want.
But like I said that first step is communication and respect and safety.
Learn the safeguards and trust in it. He will not lie and he will let you know.
When you are down and comfortable, both of you, then responded back and let us know how AMAZING it was for both of you.

Thank me later sweetness and open your mind and communicate. 😘