We've got you pegged (well, only with consent of course!) Butt stuff is a cornerstone of kinky, BDSM and fetish play, but if butt plugs and rimming aren't filling the gap, you should look into anal hooks and pegging. We asked our very own Victoria Blisse to lead you through the basics so you'll soon be an anal expert. Bottoms up! 


Upping your anal play game will take plenty of patience and practice, but if you want to add a little spice to your anal sex, here are a couple of in-depth (pun intended) suggestions for you to try. 
 

What is pegging?

Pegging is the term for sex with a strap-on, and pegging is for everyone - anyone with a butt can be pegged, and anyone can wear a strap-on. Various strap-ons designed for comfort are available, whether you have a penis or a vulva. 
 

Getting started

You don't need lots of equipment to get down to some pegging fun.

  • A comfortable strap on 
  • Lots and lots of lube of your choice 
  • Clean up and/or clean out equipment such as enema or wipes

Talk about your scene before getting down to business. Check out what each of you expects and what you're comfortable with. This way, you can have everything you might need on hand, and you're more likely to have fun and relax if you talk through all your concerns beforehand. 
 

How big to go?

Not sure which dildo to use? Well, it might be worth having a selection on hand to try. Also, make sure you start any pegging session by using your hands. Beginning with a finger or two helps both people involved get warmed up. Once you're ready to move on to a dildo, use one that has similar dimensions to other favoured anal toys. Remember, don't get too adventurous too soon!
 

Communication during your pegging play

It's always important to keep communicating with your partner, verbally and non-verbally. It's entirely okay for either partner to ask for the action to stop or slow down. You can check-in simply with a few words:

  • Do you like that? 
  • Do you want it harder? 
  • Shall I fuck you now? 

That makes the experience all the sexier! And of course, don't forget the aftercare
 

Guide to pegging and learning more

Do you still have questions? Want to know if you need to enema or discover different positions for pleasure and comfort? Maybe you want some tips for stimulating the anus and prostate? Well, check out Lola Jean's Quick 'n' Dirty Guide to Pegging in the BDSM Training School. In Lola’s entertaining guide to pegging, there are helpful videos to show you techniques and the answers to all your pegging questions and more. 

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Getting anal about anal hooks

So what else is there to try? If you're into power play, bondage and control, then maybe you should think about anal hooks. Anal hooks are made of metal with a ball at its end, and while the anal hook itself might not look too intimidating as it's doesn't have a wide shaft, the surprise is at the other end. Made so you can connect it to something else with a strong O-ring, the challenge of an anal hook is how it inhibits movement, which is perfect for BDSM play. 

Image of an anal hook
A stainless steel anal hook with rounded ball and o-ring. Testing 456, CC BY-SA 4.0, via Wikimedia Commons.
   

Who can use an anal hook?

Anyone can use an anal hook with plenty of lube and practise. However, it needs some prior bondage knowledge, as to keep the anal hook in place, it needs tying to the person by way of a harness or to a hard point. Anal hooks can be used solo, but I don't advise starting that way. Have a partner who knows their way around to get you started. 

DO: 

  • Pick an anal hook that will be comfortable for you. Some have changeable balls, so you can pick the size and change it as you will.
  • Ensure to thoroughly sanitize your anal hook before and after every use. 
  • As with any other anal play, use lots of lube! There shouldn't be any bad pain. 

DON'T:

  • Rush. Take your time and avoid any sudden moves which could end in injury. 
  • Tie restrictive knots or knots that put pressure on the neck or nerves. 
  • Use for suspension bondage. Your butt isn't made for that!

Follow these hints and tips and add your own inventive flair to make the most of your anal hook or strap on. If you discover anything extra fun, share it with your kinky friends here in our forum. 


Victoria Blisse is an erotic author, a sex-positive Reverend and part of Smut.UK who arranges events for curious and kinky people with a literary bent.
 

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If pegging intrigues you, but you're still not sure you've got everything you need, be sure to check out Quick 'n' Dirty | A Guide to Pegging in the BDSM Training School to get all the skills you need. 

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This is misleading. It gives people the impression that they are kinky if they do anal, or that you have to do anal to be kinky. If you are a gay male it’s about as common as blowjobs. If you are hetero it’s not quite as common but it’s far from taboo by today’s standards. Kink however is faaaaar more egregious than sticking things in your anus.

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Anal hooks are amazing but being pegged hard is my number one activity.

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I’d love to know, I’m fairly new actually either way we’ll talk about that but yeah I don’t know

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I like an anal hook the hooked up to my hood its different sometimes put something on top and wear it it for a few hours it feels comfy

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