Popular Post Co**** Posted May 19 Popular Post Why do people engage in kink, and what psychological or emotional needs can it fulfill?
dr**** Posted May 19 All needs from sexual fantasy and everything else To make you feel good about yourself
ch**** Posted May 19 For me I injoy kink like being in control due to the fact. That I have very little power over my daily life. I want to have something or someone who trust me enough. To let me take control of them.
Dr**** Posted May 19 Each kink and user is different. Some people use a kink to escape their daily life. Others have a lot of trauma from a young age that manifest as kinks. Still more people just enjoy the rush it gives them when the control is given away or taken. Its pretty particular to each person but everyone when done correctly and safely should feel free, satisfied and immense happiness and joy
sissyslut-7205 Posted May 19 Well depending on the kink, it can fulfill a variety of emotional and mental needs.
Deleted Member Posted May 19 For the same reasons the artist ***ts, the runner strides, and the lion hunts . In the element of psychological and emotional fulfillments I would say that belonging and development of trust, commitment and devotion are at the top but definitely not the only reasons.
bi**** Posted May 19 These are mostly theories but: For certain headspaces we can achieve "flow" which is basically like being in the zone. Time feels like it has slowed dow, your senses are heightened, you are at one with the task at hand, as its challenging enough to keep you engaged but not so difficult that it induces stress- which is very satisfying to say the least! Along with another headspace that can work along side flow- transient hypofrontality which is like a temporary reduction in activity within the brain in sections associated with higher-level cognitive functions like planning, judgment and reduced *** (aka, it's relaxing af to shut off your mind for a bit, perhaps like when youre in a subspace!) So I'd say that feeling could play a role in why we do what we do 🩷
Ti**** Posted May 19 For many, especially with extreme kinks, it comes from trauma. It’s a way of our brains telling us that we can totally enjoy the experience when there is consent involved. It’s a way of taking the power back from a traumatic experience.
Deleted Member Posted May 19 The messaging won't allow me to spell anything containing the word "Payne" in its correct spelling with an i and no y or e. Place the correct spelling of the word where the stars are after the word artist.
Ne**** Posted May 19 I like being flogged and being submissive to a good Dom. It actually quiets my brain. I have anxiety and in submission, it's quiet. In flogging I just feel and no other sense exists. Just the feeling of my back, butt, and legs feeling the thud of my flogger. In non-sexual contexts I have to listen to music quite loudly in order to experience the quiet in my head. I also have a praise kink. I think that comes from not being praised enough growing up...not completely sure....but I do know that I get a mini-high from praise.
Deleted Member Posted May 19 26 minutes ago, Tiggyburgy said: For many, especially with extreme kinks, it comes from trauma. It’s a way of our brains telling us that we can totally enjoy the experience when there is consent involved. It’s a way of taking the power back from a traumatic experience. I hadn't seen that perspective before. Thank you for your response
Ma**** Posted May 19 With as bad as my health is, I feel I have very little control in my life. Being a Domme lets me take back some of that control
Li**** Posted May 19 I find it fascinating just the access to the vast array of mentalities and emotions that you get even just talking to people in the kink world let alone engaging (I don't have a great deal of experience in engaging in kink). But it's amusing when you see these generalised posts and comments on places like Facebook that act as though there's only one way to treat a woman/man... Like, no... Have you not met anybody outside of your bubble before? I'm not the best looking guy but I've been lucky with the wide array of ladies who's company I've gotten to enjoy and just the fact that one might need to be comfortable at all times... The next absolutely has to be uncomfortable... The next might not like having their neck touched... The next requires being ***d... Like just a light rub of the clit... Others want deep hard fingering. The needs and wants of people are so vast and varied that it's fascinating figuring them all out.
sc**** Posted May 19 The constant change and intensity of it keeps my brain quiet and engaged. My masochist side keeps me strong. When I'm doubting myself, it makes me realize how strong I am. Plus I'm just naturally submissive with the right dominant man. I have to be masculine so much in my life. It gives me a safe place to allow my feminine side to flourish and shine
Br**** Posted May 19 2 hours ago, Tiggyburgy said: For many, especially with extreme kinks, it comes from trauma. It’s a way of our brains telling us that we can totally enjoy the experience when there is consent involved. It’s a way of taking the power back from a traumatic experience. That is the way I know an understand some of mine... Nicely said
da**** Posted May 19 I think personally for me it comes from the way I was raised and not getting what I needed as a child, I have to be dominant in every day life so being a submissive in the bedroom gives me such a release
Pi**** Posted May 20 I find it cathartic. After maintaining control for so long, it can be a relief to hand over the reins for awhile
de**** Posted May 20 Let me be straight up it's being pleased. Its not a 24/7 feeling people have. But humans crave things, especially when you can't have it or its a challenge. That's if you're competitive. For guys i think its more of "she came so i did well". But also that's and opinion
su**** Posted May 20 For me submission means a way to stop my brain and the only thing that will allow my mind and body to rest
Deleted Member Posted May 20 Good question!!! I engage in Kink related activities for my psychology and emotional fulfillment! Admittedly l like to disengage with outside factors, and completely immerse myself with what I’m doing here and now! Stress relief in a sense, the physical release follows along like a lost puppy! I find judgement everywhere but not with my Subbies and we look forward to playtime anxiously!!! So the Emotional and psychological aspects are shared mutually!!
La**** Posted May 20 In my own experience, I believe it drives from paraphilia; attraction towards statues, mannequins and dolls. And wanting to be able to do just about ‘anything’ without consequences. Therefore, inanimate objects, hence, dollmaking.
Da**** Posted May 20 I can't speak for anyone else here, but I can speak for myself. In that vein, you need a bit of backstory about me. I started using when I was young. I quit when I was 29. I've been clean four years. years of using was entirely IV. When I first got clean and started sleeping with people, I realized that the sensation of Cumming, while on the ***, was a body gripping orgasm. Like mind numbing, next thing to godliness kind of feeling. When I started sober, I can cum and not feel any kind of release with a partner unless I either have a strong emotional attachment to the partner or I engage in link activities. For me, it's a mixture of sexual gratification and psychological damage that makes me turn to kinks. Hope that helps, I'm not too good at giving advice or answering questions 😂
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