Where's the line?

[Lo****]

How do you know you do or don't like something? Is it the act itself or the person/people you play with? Would you try something you didn't like the first time.. but with someone else and maybe have a different outcome?

[ki****]

The act itself tells me whether I do, or don't like something. But if I don't know, I'm willing to try it once with a trusted partner. However even if I say no/yes now, later it could change so I'd be open to revisiting.

[me****]

I think you have to have your rules established with your partner first. Draw the lines. Of course you both can try new things but there must always be safety plan. ALWAYS. If you are in an act and don't feel like it, Signal your partner immediately. Aftercare is a must. Communication is the key in every play you engage.

[Deleted Member]

Usually there’s an inside feeling of repulsion if I feel off about something , usually if it makes me the sub ( like pegging ) to an extent. Other than that, I usually like the idea of experiencing the taboo or unknown. I can always stop when I dislike something, doesn’t have to be an exhausting experience just a quick lesson or new favorite game.

[ve****]

Somewhat depends on what it is, but generally start slow with something similar that you know you might like but isn’t too uncomfortable. For example, I’ve know women who absolutely do not want to try anal, but when they were introduced to it by a tongue, then a little finger, then a small vibe or plug, they realized that it felt really good and wanted more. So gradually try things along the lines of something you might like and stop at the point you don’t.

[DarkArts1066]

I believe the answer to your question depends on your own analytical skillset - and to some degree, how easily you are able to detach from a particular ‘act’ or individual.

The old saying is that “you should always try something twice” …

I’ve explored certain acts with multiple people, -on different occasions, and found them pleasurable to a greater or lesser degree, dependent on that persons own enjoyment at the time…

Equally, there are some acts that I’ve tried and found that they are not for me.

I will, depending on what they are, consider doing them with other people, but it’s a process of open ended negotiation between all parties involved.

[Ki****]

Well my line is on my gut feeling that inner soul feels right or wrong.
Then there's communication which is key and we divide between hard limits and soft ones. Like I might say i don't like "that" but maybe with the right person I might try just to say I did.
Long story short Sub or Dom you're in control, no means no and always take your time to discover at pace 🫡

[sl****]

It can be both. When I was in highschool and I had a bully that sexually harassed me and one day in the locker room he touched me. I KO him and he was out for 3 hours. So I don't like anyone touching me like that. Just bring back memories of how teachers did nothing about it. I told many ppl and nothing changed. So I took care of it my own way. He didn't get close to me know more. I may look weak but I use my anger for power. So everyone is differnt. It's what you and the other person is conferable with. Talk before acting

[Om****]

Yes, it is all of that. Even a bad experience with someone could be better with different circumstances.
It is important along the way to trust yourself and your partner. Being comfortable with yourself, your partner and the scenario.

[HF****]

Yes. My motto is I’ll try anything twice. If I gave up group sex after my first encounter then I’d never know how fun it can be with the right partners

[Ta****]

Well this might not ring true for others so much, I'd be curious to see who relates. But for me interest and curiosity and the gauge of enjoyment have been pretty black and white for me. I like who I like immediately. It doesn't go away. I don't like who I don't like immediately. It doesn't go away. And the same goes for things to try. I have a pretty clear sense before I try. I can project myself into the experience and feel it out there. And damn near a 100% of the time it holds true. Not matter who I'm doing it with.

[Do****]

I've helped a few subs reexamine things they had previously written off, it's honestly a 50/50. I think an open mind is important and trying things with your partner, new or not, is fun!

[vo****]

When it comes to trying things again, I think you should always consider whether it was *that specific experience of yours*, or the *type of experience*, that you weren't into. As in, do you not like being ***d, or did you not like being ***d by that guy because his technique was bad or he wasn't reading your body language well? Or you had a very mild sore throat and didn't really notice beforehand so you think it comes with the territory. One thing you should ask yourself is, would people who engage in this activity consider this a good example of said activity? Were all safety precautions taken, did your partner pay attention to if you were alright or just what they were doing with their dick, did they push or rush you or try involving stuff that was not discussed? Would you have even enjoyed it if it was your kink? The more uncommon the fetish the more difficult it is to find a similarly inclined partner that can provide that experience in an enjoyable way.

[Deleted Member]

Both. There is a kink I have an interest with but the Dom I was playing with there was something off. My body was rejecting him not the kink. I’d say let your intuition be your guide! Your body is wise and designed for pleasure. Not every one or everything will be in alignment and that’s good information. No one else can tell you what’s right for you and a safe Dom knows that and won’t take offense.

[sw****]

It always comes down to the person it is shared with. So much I will try with one person. But NEVER with the other. It is all about CNC and the vibe. Pervert and fun helps a lot

[Ma****]

I found out that I didn't like loads in the face after some went down my nose and into my wind pipe. Not the kind of choking I'm into 😂

[De****]

Different people bring different outcomes but I think there are some things you know you won’t enjoy and don’t want to try

[ri****]

I don't know much about BDSM but I'd like to experience a fun time with someone I feel safe with. Always use a safe word!

[Da****]

Communication is what any good Dom would want in that instance. (Occasionally some light disobedience, but she knows when to not push that line ) We dont like lies or pretty words to justify an action that breaks a 10 rule, especially when there's an agreement made with respect and consent to follow those together not en***d. This may not be relevant but I'll say again, as a Daddy, I don't do lies. If something is off with my little brat she knows she can talk to me. Even if it's hard it's better than the unnecessary stress of hiding shit. Daddy can't help when Daddy doesn't know the problem.

[Jn****]

I think people can make a difference. But if you are questioning it - it’s probably not your fav. Ya know ?

[ch****]

Im convinced that folks arent even sure they don't like things till after the 3rd time. Sometimes more. Gotta try everything 3 times., except for liver... that was 1 and done

[Da****]

This is why people need to pay attention to hard and soft limits. Communication, respect,trust and consent plays major factors in all of these. Boundaries are also very important. Some boundaries are not to be crossed at all. That is why consent is very important. I don't like giving anal sex to anyone for any reason. That is a hard limit for me. I have done research into it and just a hard no.

I encourage you to have an open communication with whoever you're involved with. Find out their hard limits your hard limits boundaries and go from there.

[Tr****]

It feels good. Person dependent. Absolutely, finding someone to bring out the curiosity and lust, magical.

[pr****]

Of course. Who they are is everything and the perspective on how they like to play is a huge role for them to fill. When I started doing the Dom thing I realized I'm not truly the one in control...yes they gave complete trust in my way which was governed by pleasing them. Ensuring they felt my intentions & honestly I get savage when I see a woman give herself completely to me but they are always in control cause I'm doing this at their request so I can not fail them & show them I know how to handle their desire. What you do and who you it with are hand in hand in the outcome being either a drag or sexual ecstacy