Popular Post da**** Posted May 23 Popular Post Submission starts with honouring yourself. Your body isn’t just a vessel. It’s the sacred space where your Dom’s power flows. For a Submisive who gifts their body to another person, self-care isn’t selfish; it’s a devotion. Taking care of your skin, moving with intention, and dressing to feel adored isn’t just for you. It’s a gift to your Dom. It’s a way of saying, “I’m ready. I’m yours.” In a full dynamic, this looks like rituals assigned by your Dom, maybe a bath with specific scents, a skincare routine, drinking water, and dressing in silk just because. It’s about showing up soft, radiant, and prepared to serve, making submission a mutual exchange of care and command. When you honour your body, your Dom’s control flows naturally and beautifully. For example: Imagine After your bath ritual, you text your Dom, “Daddy, I used the lavender oil you like. My skin’s soft for you tonight.” He replies, “Good girl. Sleep in the silk I gave you. Tomorrow, nails done by 6 PM sharp. I want you to look and feel like perfection for when i get to see you again!” That connection? Pure fire. Now, I want to hear from you: How do you honour your body within your dynamic? What rituals or care do you practice that deepen your submission or Dom’s ownership? Let’s discuss, share, and learn from each other’s experiences. Drop your thoughts below, no judgment, only real talk.
da**** Posted May 23 Author 16 minutes ago, Jimmy1912121 said: Following as a Dom. This is beautiful Thank you. it's much appreciated 😊
Za**** Posted May 23 This would be really nice, it would give me the motivation to actually take care of myself
Su**** Posted May 23 I love this ❤️ like said above, this hace me boost of self-confidence and motivation to take good care of me.
Do**** Posted May 23 I really want to just go with your first sentence or two about your body. I have told almost every submissive no literally every submissive I’ve ever met whether we have engaged in play, we have move forward in a relationship or we’re just sharing ideas that you absolutely must respect yourself. If you don’t you’re going to Attract others who won’t respect you either. And as your dominant, that’s a huge aspect of what I consider my job to be. Respect is very important even if the dynamic is different based on the direction it’s flowing, I think it’s Paramount for developing a lasting relationship, especially if that’s what you want. Anytime I have an exchange with a submissive and she tells me that her dominant doesn’t provide aftercare. She feels empty afterwards. There was no exchange of energy. Then again, I’m more of a managing Dom or a gentle Dom. But I’m also very in touch with my shadow self. The model that I had for the dynamic in the relationship came from my parents. I don’t think they would’ve known maybe, but I don’t think they were aware of the lifestyle. Nonetheless, my mother just short of worshiped my father. And he said his job was to protect her and make her feel safe. He would also say that what he respected most about her was that she had such a strong Will. That’s something that I have in common with him. But she would also always ask his permission or seek his approval. And if he denied it she would speak her mind but she would accept his decision. But my favorite quote from my father who was absolutely a powerful and dominant person but one of the most respectful men I would have ever met, he would say about my mother “ I love her for her strong will and she doesn’t have a problem saying what she thinks... He would pause a minute and say “sometimes I just wish she wouldn’t think so damn much.” And we would all laugh. I understand that type of dynamic isn’t for everyone, so I hope each of us find that balance of power that I witnessed growing up.
Ji**** Posted May 23 14 minutes ago, DomMan66 said: I really want to just go with your first sentence or two about your body. I have told almost every submissive no literally every submissive I’ve ever met whether we have engaged in play, we have move forward in a relationship or we’re just sharing ideas that you absolutely must respect yourself. If you don’t you’re going to Attract others who won’t respect you either. And as your dominant, that’s a huge aspect of what I consider my job to be. Respect is very important even if the dynamic is different based on the direction it’s flowing, I think it’s Paramount for developing a lasting relationship, especially if that’s what you want. Anytime I have an exchange with a submissive and she tells me that her dominant doesn’t provide aftercare. She feels empty afterwards. There was no exchange of energy. Then again, I’m more of a managing Dom or a gentle Dom. But I’m also very in touch with my shadow self. The model that I had for the dynamic in the relationship came from my parents. I don’t think they would’ve known maybe, but I don’t think they were aware of the lifestyle. Nonetheless, my mother just short of worshiped my father. And he said his job was to protect her and make her feel safe. He would also say that what he respected most about her was that she had such a strong Will. That’s something that I have in common with him. But she would also always ask his permission or seek his approval. And if he denied it she would speak her mind but she would accept his decision. But my favorite quote from my father who was absolutely a powerful and dominant person but one of the most respectful men I would have ever met, he would say about my mother “ I love her for her strong will and she doesn’t have a problem saying what she thinks... He would pause a minute and say “sometimes I just wish she wouldn’t think so damn much.” And we would all laugh. I understand that type of dynamic isn’t for everyone, so I hope each of us find that balance of power that I witnessed growing up. Thank you for this. It’s super insightful
FreddieJobbs Posted May 23 Is this advice targeted to all genders? Or is it only targeted to females?
da**** Posted May 23 Author 1 minute ago, FreddieJobbs said: Is this advice targeted to all genders? Or is it only targeted to females? Whoever need to hear it sweetie
Do**** Posted May 23 31 minutes ago, FreddieJobbs said: Is this advice targeted to all genders? Or is it only targeted to females? I can only speak from my perspective, but I would hope respect at least on some level is UNIVERSAL.
ni**** Posted May 23 I love that and I'm not too familiar with the dynamic but that has given me good insight and I definitely need a sub LOL
da**** Posted May 23 As a submissive, I take good care of myself, skincare routine, healthy habits, eat healthy, exercise and take care of myself physically mentally and emotionally, my dom likes when I wear a collar, so I often wear it for him and take pictures, he likes that I take care of myself and in doing so that is honoring him as well, seeing me cared for and happy helps him to care for me as well. It’s a team effort
De**** Posted May 23 I adore this. We are absolutely an extension of our Dom’s. To disrespect our bodies is to disrespect our Dom.
Ha**** Posted May 24 This is such a beautiful and grounding post—thank you for sharing it! For me, this is one of the hardest parts of the dynamic. Self-care has always felt deeply personal, almost sacred in a private way, so inviting my Dom into that space wasn’t easy. But when I started letting him in—asking his opinion on my nail color, or which perfume he preferred—I had to explain that his input wasn’t casual. It was intimate. The way I present myself to the world is something I hold very dear, and letting him influence that meant he meant something to me. His voice wasn’t just heard—it was honored. At the same time, being in my feminine, soft energy requires intentional care. Monthly maintenance, rituals, long-term routines—they’re how I stay grounded and show up fully in the dynamic. For me, submission isn’t about kneeling—it’s about how I choose to pour into myself so I can be present, powerful, and open. It’s still something I’m learning to share, but I’m realizing that when I let him in, it doesn’t take away my independence—it deepens our connection.
Wi**** Posted May 24 Then there's me "My body is a temple. Ancient, crumbling, possibly haunted and filled with unspeakable horror." I enjoy that Meme very much
Ji**** Posted May 24 8 minutes ago, vixenfoxcat said: Sadly, I’m being proven that this is a fantasy and doesn’t actually happen. 😞 Can you say more? I’m curious
vi**** Posted May 24 4 minutes ago, Jimmy1912121 said: Can you say more? I’m curious All I find are guys pretending to be a dom. There’s never any communication. Questions are frowned upon. It’s like I’m expected to mold myself into some unknown and unrealistic model. And when I don’t. I’m the bad guy. It’s so infuriating! At this point, I’m just ready to give up.
Ji**** Posted May 24 4 minutes ago, vixenfoxcat said: All I find are guys pretending to be a dom. There’s never any communication. Questions are frowned upon. It’s like I’m expected to mold myself into some unknown and unrealistic model. And when I don’t. I’m the bad guy. It’s so infuriating! At this point, I’m just ready to give up. I hear that. Curiosity is the path to freedom and liberation as both a sub and a Dom. Curiosity is only a threat to those who want control and not exchange
Ma**** Posted May 24 What a perfect way to put it! I often come across subs that are confused about their desire, especially, it seems that following the norms of media they see it as a weakness! But I think they shall, everyone shall, re evaluate their value structure! A female submission for example, is not a weakness, but for many a profound way to open up the true feminine inside them. To submit is to have a purpose! To submit is to be a complementary part of another person and make each other complete! And when one see these basic values properly life becomes more meaningful and simpler! When a sub I Is at peace with her submission then she realise taking care of her self is the most important thing. Because she needs to be there for him at full capacity
Tara131 Posted May 25 (edited) 21 hours ago, Jimmy1912121 said: I hear that. Curiosity is the path to freedom and liberation as both a sub and a Dom. Curiosity is only a threat to those who want control and not exchange This is very insightful. Thank you for this and for sharing your original perspective. Edited May 25 by Tara131
Ur**** Posted May 31 Wow that's beautiful and very well said.. you're so right about it being an "honoring" ones self.. keep on being awesome
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