Let’s Talk: Wheelchair Fetish & Devotee/Devotism 🖤

[Ty****]

Whether you’re into it, curious, or just wondering what the buzz is about, this thread is your space to talk it out.

Would love to hear your take! Ever encountered it? Felt objectified? Flattered? Confused? Let’s keep it flirty, respectful, and totally judgment-free.

Let’s Roll Into That… 😉 💋

[Deleted Member]

Everyone is judged and everyone judges every minute of the day here. Away from here as well I might add. Age, weight, ethics, social standing, looks wrong etc.

[Wi****]

I've encountered it through work. We have a handbook now for sexual advice and equipment for people with disabilities that we can give to people who are struggling.

Personally I've never had the festish for it, but always been curious about it

[No****]

I’m not a wheelchair user but am disabled and use mobility aids and will be in a wheelchair at some point. The thought of my disability being fetishised is really gross to me. I’m saying this respectfully

[MK****]

Jumping in here as someone who’s disabled -- not wheelchair-bound, but living with a service-related disability. I wasn’t born this way, and I can tell you: becoming disabled later in life is a shift not just in body, but in how you’re seen. And sometimes, in kink spaces, that visibility gets warped into fetish -- not connection.

I think curiosity is fine. Hell, being attracted to someone with a disability isn’t the issue. The issue is when the disability itself becomes the kink -- when someone bypasses the person entirely and zeros in on the impairment like it’s some edgy sex prop. That’s not attraction. That’s objectification dressed up in curiosity.

From a trauma-informed lens -- which I take seriously as someone studying counseling -- we need to recognize that disability isn’t just physical. There’s emotional, cultural, and psychological weight to it, especially for folks who weren’t born into it. Many of us have had to unlearn internalized ableism, deal with the loss of function or identity, and rebuild self-worth. Getting reduced to a fantasy short circuits all of that.

Also, devotism often operates from the medical model of disability -- seeing the “problem” in the body -- instead of the social or human rights models, which center barriers, agency, and dignity. If you’re not coming from that angle, it’s easy to end up sexualizing someone’s restriction rather than respecting their experience.

So yeah, fetishizing disability? That can hit differently for those of us who didn’t grow up in disabled bodies. We’re still adapting, still processing, and often still grieving. When someone slides in talking like our trauma is their kink -- it’s not validating. It’s alienating.

Being trauma informed in kink isn’t just about consent. It’s about honoring someone’s history, agency, and wholeness. If that gets lost in translation, you’re not exploring desire. You’re reenacting dominance over someone else’s vulnerability.

[co****]

I got in to a girl who was a wheelchair. She is flexible, bendable and is 97 pounds. She was around 21 years old. I was 17 years old. She showed me things I would never have imagined. It was fun for a long time. We still talk and sometimes play together and with others.

[al****]

Definitely objectification. When it becomes more about the disability than the person, you might as well put a mannequin in the wheelchair because you're attracted to the kink and not the person. The kink exists, but the person does not. Just my 2 cents.