(Submission) I'm Not Looking, I'm Learning

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I’ve flirted with submission a little over the years, but I’ve never really had the chance to explore it properly.

Most of my past partners wanted me in a dominant role. I tried to play the part, and sometimes I did enjoy it — especially when I was younger. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve felt less and less connected to that dynamic. These days, I’ve realized I don’t need to be the one in control to enjoy myself. In fact, I’ve always found more satisfaction in her pleasure than my own.

The thing is, I don’t feel much anymore. I think it’s because I’ve spent a long time trying to *** myself into a role that doesn’t quite fit. Deep down, I’ve wished my partners were more dominant or more controlling, but I didn’t have the confidence or clarity to say that out loud.

So here I am — not trying to rush into anything, not looking to start a dynamic. Just trying to learn.

I want to understand what being a male submissive really means. I want to figure out what I have to offer beyond fantasy or stereotype. I’m stumbling into this, unsure, but willing to be honest with myself for once.

If you’re a submissive who’s been in this lifestyle for a while — especially someone who’s found a good balance between kink and the rest of life — I’d be grateful for any advice. If you’re a domme and willing to offer feedback or perspective, I’d love to hear it too.

I’m not here for attention or a scene. I know I enjoy certain aspects like *** in the right context, but this post isn’t about that. It’s about starting from the beginning and learning with a clear head.

I’d also love to make a few friends who get this side of things. Just conversation. Just connection. Please be respectful.

[Ar****]

That was absolutely beautiful. I wish there were more submissives genuinely dedicated to discovering themselves. Thank you for being *** and sharing such a beautiful moment of your journey with us.

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In my journey, too many men label themselves as submissive because they like to have things done to them. They want to fulfill their fantasies. While they also forget that being a submissive means that you have to give up control. As soon as I try to give them orders they get all pi ssy about it and refuse to listen to anything that I say.

 

So as a dominant, I can say that submissives should put their dominant (needs and everything) above all else, when possible. Any reasonable dominant understands real life duties and obligations come before any kinky play.

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10 hours ago, TheMacabreBrat said:

In my journey, too many men label themselves as submissive because they like to have things done to them. They want to fulfill their fantasies. While they also forget that being a submissive means that you have to give up control. As soon as I try to give them orders they get all pi ssy about it and refuse to listen to anything that I say.

 

So as a dominant, I can say that submissives should put their dominant (needs and everything) above all else, when possible. Any reasonable dominant understands real life duties and obligations come before any kinky play.

I entirely agree with you , I have somebody special and She is the only one who brings up sexual topics unless shes asks. Im get more enjoyment from knowing something i do helps them feel good.

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11 hours ago, Arealblkgirlhere said:

That was absolutely beautiful. I wish there were more submissives genuinely dedicated to discovering themselves. Thank you for being *** and sharing such a beautiful moment of your journey with us.

And thank you as well for the lovely comment. I'm just starting out but i'm doing my best.