Chains and canes

[Di****]

I don’t hate the idea if chaining and caning, but I’ve never thought about it much. Being a pansexual man, I’ll fuck who I want, but if she wants it and it’s part of her culture and turns her on but I’m afraid I don’t really understand her urge? I need stuff to read and learn and pictures of restraints maybe? I’m handy and I want to see the best and then build something better for her. I’m a good listener for a dude so I figure maybe y’all give me handy or jump here. Anticipation of need it important and I’m competing
Against girls too so don’t be shy 🙈 slap my face with wisdom

[Jo****]

Find a mentor . Someone that has done it before . Ie could ask another daddy or dom . One way to start I guess would be just using basic cuffs or a collar and some chain , possibly a padlock. Using these without putting the chain around any part of the head or neck , just using the element of a chain . Communication about that kind of scene and the limits to be set . Then once you have completed the scene . Discuss further to ensure that both parties are happy with the outcomes and if so wished to move forward with such chains . There’s a lot of things online . When I first started. I desecrated and learnt as much as I could, even the reason why someone want ask for this . Once I have an understanding then it’s possible to apply within communication .

[Di****]

1 hour ago, John24gold said:

Find a mentor . Someone that has done it before . Ie could ask another daddy or dom . One way to start I guess would be just using basic cuffs or a collar and some chain , possibly a padlock. Using these without putting the chain around any part of the head or neck , just using the element of a chain . Communication about that kind of scene and the limits to be set . Then once you have completed the scene . Discuss further to ensure that both parties are happy with the outcomes and if so wished to move forward with such chains . There’s a lot of things online . When I first started. I desecrated and learnt as much as I could, even the reason why someone want ask for this . Once I have an understanding then it’s possible to apply within communication .

I do have a lot of chain out in the garage. Was thinking I might just go boil everything in olive oil for a few days as a starter. What about rachet straps? As a compromise? I have some old leather tool belts that are rough and will chafe good. I’m using those for sure.

[Fl****]

well, if you REALLY want to understand her point of view…

[ge****]

Firstly, there's nothing to say that you have to go down that route if it's something that does nothing for you, or you don't understand it - being able to say "No" in this world is as much of a strength as anything.
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If you do feel it's something you would like to do though - proceed with caution, especially when it comes to canes, there is much damage you can do if you don't do it right.
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Likewise with restraints of any kind.
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Firstly speak to partners that are asking for this - understand their motivation, and how exactly they like it. Research lots, use sites like this and FL, and others to further your knowledge and get a better understanding of your own motivations and likes/dislikes.
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Don't simply use stuff you have living about the house either - not without understanding the risks first anyway.

[Di****]

16 hours ago, Flash_Gordamn said:

well, if you REALLY want to understand her point of view…

That’s my normal plan actually. But my ass is flat af. I am scared. U know what *** is something you need to learn to enjoy. I wrote that at 19 yo. It’s more true than ever huh?

[Di****]

15 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Firstly, there's nothing to say that you have to go down that route if it's something that does nothing for you, or you don't understand it - being able to say "No" in this world is as much of a strength as anything.
.
If you do feel it's something you would like to do though - proceed with caution, especially when it comes to canes, there is much damage you can do if you don't do it right.
.
Likewise with restraints of any kind.
.
Firstly speak to partners that are asking for this - understand their motivation, and how exactly they like it. Research lots, use sites like this and FL, and others to further your knowledge and get a better understanding of your own motivations and likes/dislikes.
.
Don't simply use stuff you have living about the house either - not without understanding the risks first anyway.

Thanks and to the last part, the “kit”… I am an idiot it’s true, but with all the proper equipment and certifications related to safety while working with metal. She is getting princess treatment period, and in her culture I’m required to be getting a rattan cane
I am not complaining, not complaining at all.

The chains will be vibratory polished in diamond paste. Cold smooth every link reflecting and so smooth they feel soft. Then the olive oil bees wax and vanilla extract boil. My chain will whip it good! Yeah man!

[Horny-9383]

Ohh myy