Married: Where Do You Draw the Line?

[oh****]

I hate liars! Needles to say we are getting a divorce. I couldn’t imagine going out and cheating on her with multiple people and not tell her I had been sleeping with other peoples just in case something got brought home.

[Je****]

My opinion is if it's something you would mind if they were doing it then you shouldn't do it.

[Co****]

Not married, polyamourous/ ENM (they are different, can share if I anted) but been in monogomous, ***ful relationships for too many years before.

The way I see it, we are not a monogomous species, AT ALL, hell, I don't even think we are purely human sexual, given that we can desire... Anything.

So be open about it, people cheat and lose good things because they lie, wanting to have the cake and eat it but the fabric of your pants splits because it couldn't assimilate.

If prefer to be able to check in with anyone else's partner so that I'm not an unwitting party to cheating, but if someone comes to me, says my partner knows nothing about this, but I need you. I'm in, because I know what I'm in for.

If they tell me their partner knows and I run into them and say hi and thanks for borrowing me the miissus, and this is the first they've heard about it, well the partner lied to Both,the trust is hanging. If it can be HAPPILY worked out, then cool, otherwise, I'll take my leave and let you guys sort your thing out.

I'm in a relationship, I tell her if there's a girl I've started chatting to, orif I have a coffee/ not coffee date coming up, and she tells me about hers, we have found a level of comfort re: describing etc.

There are rules and boundaries that would mean if I truly needed to break them, the relationship would be over, the friendship shall remain though.

It's the mindset that there is only one person (often said by someone on their third marriage) that is your true love, your soulmate etc and people believing that do their best to make it LOOK that way, but rarely do.

I advocate for radical honesty when it comes to relationships, no matter how many you're in. Radical honesty in kink get you where you actually want to be faster... Hell radical honesty at work "I'm doing the work of two people, give me a raise".

Advocate for yourselves, get used to people saying wat they need. Easy, next!