No limits?

[GeneGrey]

They must be hardcore like ECW wrestling. They’re willing to put their bodies through anything!

[Deleted Member]

I draw the limit at being fisted by a gorilla.

[Iwantcreampie]

I’ve read all the responses. Everyone is correct. Some are inexperienced, and haven’t crossed that bridge yet. Some are fake profiles/bots/sex workers, and some might be not all there. In summary, the people who are actually in this “lifestyle” knows that everyone has limits and will put forth the effort to mention in it in their profile.

[Le****]

I can give a reason for that. I know that seems to be unreal..and unseriös at once.

But the destintion for sone humans ist to Go under..to give the life..to reach...

A) the reason for living
B) to become a part
C)to get a deepth...

Therefore i have No limit in me.

Frank from Germany


Despite juristic / law..i know..but i dont care and i believe that this..borders become..less in the future.

[Bl****]

Yeah, it's an obvious fake profile usually.

[be****]

I'm okay with you presenting an idea of whatever you're into. I can validate without agreeing. I can intentionally withhold my differing taste. I think saying "everything is permissable" creates a beautifully safe space for those who have internalized ideas that something about them is wrong and creates a safe space for those who have received negative feedback for opening up.

[Ti****]

I think it just means they haven't experienced enough to have discovered what their limits are yet (so they think they have none...so far). They may just be trying to be 'brave' and think they are tough to say it until they are reminded that they actually do 😂

[Al****]

You’re being too harsh on people. 99.99% will have a limit but I expect you’d always find 1 person for any limit, even self-mutilation (losing limbs or death). Others don’t want to start what could be a very long list to type one fingered.

Personally I don’t even want to talk about limits, I ask, if it’s a no, it’s a no for me too with that person.

[Curioustopeg]

I think limits are something to be discussed between two adults, not a shopping list. Two people might list the same limit here but one of their limit might be the others foreplay. Just my 2p worth

[Al****]

I’d say don’t be too quick to judge people, not anyone. People are rarely what they seem to be.

[Pe****]

Not sure it's a red flag. A dominant not wanting to discuss limits is definitely a red flag. Somebody who claims to have none seems more inexperienced to me. Boundaries are important. I've heard too many stories about people not discussing limits before playing and somebody feeling like they were messing up if they said no mid scene.

[sardonicus87]

I see "no limits" and I KNOW that's someone inexperienced. Let them negotiate play with me, they'll find out real quick, "oh, I guess I do have limits". I've never met a single person that claimed "no limits" who wasn't a total newbie or vanilla that thinks regular s*x is a kink.

[Wi****]

I think that most new people that are truly interested, will read and research.
There are some things that are diffinate limits.
I don't need to be shoved off a cliff into water blindfolded, tied up with an anchor around my feet to know that is a hard no.

By just going through the list, most people can say, nah I don't want to try that.

That doesn't mean that in time limits won't change. Many simply require working into and some aren't apparent at first thought.

[bl****]

Not so much a red flag but a non-starter for me. That's not the game I want to play. I like to co-create an experience with my play partners.

[sardonicus87]

I should also clarify, I am specifically talking about those that explicitly say that they have "no limits"... not people who say they don't know their limits or simply don't list any. When they say it explicitly, it's either because they're trying to be edgy, or because they legitimately think they don't have any due to a lack of experience to know how far the edge is or what else is out there.
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They, and anyone should think, dying is an obvious hard limit nobody should have to articulate, but there's a wide world between light spanking and death (and that's not to belittle spanking, I've seen many spankos that are far heavier players than a lot of BDSM people broadly).
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Like, hard caning, drowning, and all manner of ***s that could involve permanent or semi permanent damage to varying degrees, branding, nailing body parts (as in nails, you hit with a hammer)... the list goes on and on, I'm not even talking about super extreme either (like people that want amputation).
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And that's why I say I know it's either inexperience or edginess, because I've seen it a million times.

[ia****]

Limits are healthy. Don't let anyone tell ya differently.

[ki****]

There ain’t no real sub or domme who believes in “no limits” SSC is a must even in vanilla relationships, let alone in BDSM ones.

[Mi****]

Friday at 10:03 PM, long-beach545202 said:

I mean, yeah, it’s a red flag for me, but maybe they’re just those wild and crazy “too weird to live, too rare to die” folks. And more power to them. We need a few pioneers willing to guzzle gasoline and juggle tomahawks blindfolded to remind the rest of us why we don’t do that.

Hahahah!!! Yes!! 😂

[Mi****]

Friday at 10:04 PM, satyr4nymphos said:

why are you even discussing this, if yhey give you pause dont talk or connect with them.

Because I can. Just wanted other’s opinions. That ok?

[Mi****]

Friday at 11:02 PM, hellhoundswitch said:

MistressKayci you are 100% right. Period. Saying you have no limits is the biggest and easiest red flag to spot. The issue is people mistake being actually in the lifestyle with kinky sex or experimenting. People have confused this app for being fetlife and also think this app is like kinky tinder. Lack of experience and education about the lifestyle leads to protocols being broken or not even followed, *** of consent, and safety ***s. The other thing about this app is a lot of fake profiles, scammers, and even bots. This is why i encourage anyone interested in the lifestyle to go to a munch, event, class, and/or party and start learning from experienced members. I am so glad you made this post today. I have also noticed the crazy amount of people that have no limits on their profile.

Yep, this app is definitely treated like kinky tinder.

[Goodbicpl]

14 hours ago, sardonicus87 said:

I should also clarify, I am specifically talking about those that explicitly say that they have "no limits"... not people who say they don't know their limits or simply don't list any. When they say it explicitly, it's either because they're trying to be edgy, or because they legitimately think they don't have any due to a lack of experience to know how far the edge is or what else is out there.
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They, and anyone should think, dying is an obvious hard limit nobody should have to articulate, but there's a wide world between light spanking and death (and that's not to belittle spanking, I've seen many spankos that are far heavier players than a lot of BDSM people broadly).
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Like, hard caning, drowning, and all manner of ***s that could involve permanent or semi permanent damage to varying degrees, branding, nailing body parts (as in nails, you hit with a hammer)... the list goes on and on, I'm not even talking about super extreme either (like people that want amputation).
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And that's why I say I know it's either inexperience or edginess, because I've seen it a million times.

Yep death and amputation is definitely a hard limit. 😂

[my****]

I’ve always believed no limits is two sided. On the one hand it’s uneducated, clearly they don’t understand how depraved a person can get. On the other hand it would be how I would want a long term relationship to be. As in she gives herself fully to me and trusts me to do anything I wanted, while knowing there are things I’d never ask of her. I would not expect that level of trust to be offered up in a profile though.

[DarkArts1066]

I’ve replied to many comments regarding this over the years… and started several discussions on different sites and forums.

Everyone has limits.
Regardless of what they actually think - or want others to believe, and I have challenged many people on this over time.

Tell me different, and I will call bullshit on you.
Pure and simple.

There are plenty of narcissistic psychopaths out there who are only too willing to take things beyond a level that people feel safe at - or if not ‘safe’ in the traditional sense, then let’s call it ‘comfortable with’ instead….

And for that reason -if no other, then I personally feel that people have a responsibility - to themselves and others, to establish a level of safety in their engagements with others - particularly those they haven’t met before.

Only two days ago, I had an online messaging interaction with a 19yr old young Lady, whose profile proudly stated that she had “no limits”.

I attempted to explain why that was unsafe, and what some nutjobs would consider “fun” with someone like her.

It fell completely on deaf ears.

One can only try. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Pe****]

“No limits” is absolute bs and a massive red flag. It’s also (to me) an indicator that someone has no clue about kink.

[Yi****]

It is kind of sexy to think of your partner might have no limits with you so we put that on our profile like I'm that cool but it's more of a theater or role-play statement