Spanking tips

[Da****]

10 minutes ago, DeviantInside said:

Not to be a … protuberance… here, but clearly stated his hand.

What I am suggesting is your hand can take so much before it starts hurting. That is why I said "also get inventive". People get used to being spanked with a hand. No offense taken at all. I was just offering up other suggestions to make it more exciting. Interchange the hand to flogger to belt to riding crop kitchen utensils hair brush. You know variety. Keep her on her toes

[DeviantInside]

3 minutes ago, Daddyskinky55443 said:

What I am suggesting is your hand can take so much before it starts hurting. That is why I said "also get inventive". People get used to being spanked with a hand. No offense taken at all. I was just offering up other suggestions to make it more exciting. Interchange the hand to flogger to belt to riding crop kitchen utensils hair brush. You know variety. Keep her on her toes

I do agree in principle… but I also have known people that have very specific ideas of what they want. That’s why I tried to limit my answer to what they asked. However, giving other options is a good thing and thank you for being an entirely reasonable person and not taking offence… very much appreciated.

[Da****]

6 minutes ago, DeviantInside said:

I do agree in principle… but I also have known people that have very specific ideas of what they want. That’s why I tried to limit my answer to what they asked. However, giving other options is a good thing and thank you for being an entirely reasonable person and not taking offence… very much appreciated.

Oh you're very welcome. This is what I think should be involved. To help in the obtaining of knowledge that each one of us brings to the table. Just using this platform to give ideas and to get ideas. I appreciate your comments too.

[Bu****]

19 minutes ago, DeviantInside said:

More this. How you cup or flatten your hand makes a big difference. Depending whether they respond to sound or impact. Same for sting or thud. Also whether firm impact or skimming. Using ice adds another dynamic. Also how they are held down… across lap or over one knee with the other leg across their back. The psychological aspect is also important. If you can play into their fantasy will make a huge difference. There are lots of variables… which will change day to day depending on mood, arousal, hormones, tiredness and so much else. Hitting harder doesn’t mean you’re reading the best way to make it amazing for your sub (but also there might be times when it does). There are techniques you can learn (and should) but it’s more about being able to read what your partner needs at that moment. (At least in my opinion… this message only has as much mileage as works for you)

Oh right, to expand on the positioning of your partner it's generally less ***ful if they are on say all fours, and they can move with the impact, and more ***ful if they lay flat or are braced over your knee.

Also, with how endorphins work in the body, the first couple impacts are going to hurt way more so it's important to start slow and light. After a few minutes their tolerance will go way up due to what's happening in the body. At around the 15 minute mark their tolerance might go down again so you may have to take a break and start over with light and slow again.

Rhythm is also important. Going at a steady pace can help them adapt to the feeling. This is great for new people but more experienced might get bored. For more experienced change up the rhythm so they can't expect it. Or make them think you're about to spank really hard and then don't for a few seconds so they have some time to dread and squirm.

[Do****]

Spank it, then rub in circles, squeeze, spank, rub... Switch up the timing, don't be boring. When I spank them rub, I slide my fingers to the ass crack lightly swipe up, squeeze cheeks, back to spanking off rhythm.

[Jo****]

There are very specific erogenous zones to whip, at the end of the day the best thing you can do is explore little by little but the essential will always be the foreplay, lighting the flame is essential for kink…

[bl****]

I didn't wanna say to much I might get band

[DeviantInside]

2 minutes ago, DoktorDirty75 said:

Spank it, then rub in circles, squeeze, spank, rub... Switch up the timing, don't be boring. When I spank them rub, I slide my fingers to the ass crack lightly swipe up, squeeze cheeks, back to spanking off rhythm.

This can be a thing… teasing between *** and pleasure does work for a lot of people… not all but a lot. Read how they respond to what you are doing.

[Ha****]

I also like to play with breathing on their neck or other areas. Especially by alternating between exhaling cold and warm air.

[gl****]

Thanks all. Great advice all round

[Mi****]

Bookmarking this, hope all the advice helped!

[Co****]

Become a bass player

[th****]

A leather spanking tool ◇♡

[th****]

Smack her as* like there's a huge ass spider on it..... beat it up

[Deleted Member]

Bring in a leather toy. Like a paddle or riding crop. I was very new to spanking and loved the feel of a rough hand but the second I tried a riding crop and the leather against my ass I’ve wanted more.

[Deleted Member]

I usually like it when it starts slow and gentle, almost like just caressing, then I want my partner to get a little tougher on my ass over time until I'm basically yelping down the house

[dr****]

Stick a toy in there while you spank it

[Eu****]

Take some baby oil and mix half water half baby oil. Spray her bottom and spank her while rubbing it in. Also, if you're into it a vibrating but plug. Just put it in and wear her ass out.

[Si****]

If she is a newbie, repetitive light taps, then build up to a heavier hand. Be mindful of her *** threshold by asking her "how she is" every time you step it up. If and when you get to the point where her ass is completely black and blue, she may like to keep the bruises however if he does not you can use arnica salve or a calendula salve they'll pull the sting and the black and blue out. When you go past your hand and use a toy such as a wooden paddle or dare I say a 4.2 lb 1061 cold rolled metal paddle, like I make, the salves will come in after every play for aftercare. If this is your first "newbie" pay attention to her sub drop, I always have an aftercare package set up for right after. It may consist of a favorite blanket, stuffed ***, juice box, gummy bears, cleaning products and so on...Remember, if we break our toys we can't play with them again.

[ba****]

There's the same apply to men that love to be spanked?