Opinions needed

[me****]

3 hours ago, omegachaos said:

Damn I'm just out here telling people they suck and to shut up , or rambling about absolutely unhinged stuff until I scare them off ... that definitely not good advice btw

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[En****]

5 hours ago, omegachaos said:

Damn I'm just out here telling people they suck and to shut up , or rambling about absolutely unhinged stuff until I scare them off ... that definitely not good advice btw

You honest and to the point. Perhaps they will modify the behavior to have more success in the future

[Deleted Member]

I just say "I'm not looking to continue this, I wish you well." Clear and to the point

[Deleted Member]

That normaly means they met u and was no longer interested

[Sl****]

5 hours ago, mermaidkat1990 said:

One word short answers. He also seems to hate everything.

Ah, shoot. That's no good at all. I agree with others when they say just be truthful. Explain that it's hard having to ask most of the questions and can be very draining when the other person doesn't want to help keep the conversation flowing.

[Ac****]

So for me personally it depends on the situation if I like them and see a long term relationship then it's a minor issue and let them know what's going on and give them a chance to fix it then if they don't then I do like others have said some variation of thanking them for their time and company and telling them I won't be pursuing further commitments with them and send them on their merry way.or if no interest or connection at all send them on their way anyway

[Sm****]

Tell em your just not into the vibe they are putting off and don't see things progressing in any meaningful manner to you.

[me****]

7 hours ago, bachelor_2 said:

That normaly means they met u and was no longer interested

They never met me.

[Al****]

I would say something along the lines, "Hey! I just wanted to be upfront and let you that from our conversations I do not feel a connection. I appreciate you taking the time to talk with me and hope you have a great evening." You do not owe this person an explanation. People ask questions they dont want to know the answer to all of the time and especially with never having met in person.

[Ba****]

As gently as possible say that you aren't feeling a connection and want to stop further communication

[Deleted Member]

On 7/10/2025 at 2:27 PM, mermaidkat1990 said:

If you meet someone and at first they seem great but then you realize they are the most boring person, how do you kindly say “ you are boring and I get bored after 2 minutes of hearing you talk?” Without sounding like a rude Aries (which I am haha)

 

11 hours ago, mermaidkat1990 said:

They never met me.

(Emphasis mine.) Given how the original post was phrased, I can see how @bachelor_2 got the impression that you two had been conversing in person.

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With that said, I've had a 95% success rate with, "I'm just not feeling it."  In cases where a "no, thank you," "I'm just not interested," or even a "We're not compatible" will get me "But why?" clap-back, I've found that a statement that reflects a gut-level "NOPE" tends to silence most of these people.

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In the one case where it didn't, the person's profile was essentially blank and they were barely answering my questions despite stating they would. When I gave my end-game statement, they replied with, "But you don't even know me."

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"No, I don't know you. There's nothing in your profile, or in your responses, that's let me know you. You haven't said anything to inspire me to get curious enough to meet you."

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"Oh. Okay. Cool."

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One can be honest without giving specific details. Also, just because this guy is boring to you doesn't mean that he'd be boring to someone else (though with him giving minimal answers, I'm not sure of who that would be). After describing a coffee date where I found the conversation boring and the person admitted to being completely vanilla, not nerdy or geeky, etc., my best friend told me that she would've been fascinated by the conversation and urged me to give the guy another chance, but I just couldn't be bothered ... especially with everything else. He was perfectly nice, though, and I hope he found someone wonderful. 

[Th****]

My life right now

[br****]

If you don't like how someone is, then move on. Chances are they like their life or maybe you can try to introduce them to no things. Maybe instead of insulting their boredom. Maybe you both need to move forward and find someone that matches your s***d

[Co****]

Throw out a curve ball question or two, or ask what they're working on right now, if they have NOTHING that excites them, then maybe ask point blank, what is something you could talk for hours about... Sometimes "boring people" think maybe they're too nerdy or niche... Opening up can be hard.

So maybe that gets a good convo going, and if they're not for you, be kind but say the "not a good fit" thing, but try telling them that you like the passion, someone will have similar interests, just not me, lead with them next time maybe?

If they truly are the most boring person on the planet, maybe ask where the passion is, the interest in things, life, the universe, physicality, video games, politics, movies etc? If they're depressed, they may need to be shown that there's more to life than surviving. Once they find their passion, they'll find someone. And maybe they need to get some help professionally to get there. "Nothing wrong with seeking help, but I can't give it to you" type thing.

Trying to let someone down too easy can have them try to prove themselves, it gets tiresome for you and frustrating for them

[Wi****]

How interesting are you?.. why is the person talking so much? A conversation goes both ways..... Are you really trying to get to know the person or are you just looking to fool around because if that's the case, cut the small talking get to it

[me****]

7 hours ago, Willhanglow said:

How interesting are you?.. why is the person talking so much? A conversation goes both ways..... Are you really trying to get to know the person or are you just looking to fool around because if that's the case, cut the small talking get to it

I’m a very talkative person but this guy will only give me one word answers and he hates his life it seems. I tried starting up convo but he is still boring as heck!! But he just doesn’t get it when I try to be nice.

[An****]

It sounds like he just doesn't have good conversational skills, but also if you say he seems like he hates his life than perhaps the bad conversation is also a sign that maybe this person just isn't at a place in their life where they are a good fit for dating you.

[Mendez-69]

On 7/11/2025 at 12:27 AM, mermaidkat1990 said:

If you meet someone and at first they seem great but then you realize they are the most boring person, how do you kindly say “ you are boring and I get bored after 2 minutes of hearing you talk?” Without sounding like a rude Aries (which I am haha)

I would like someone told me that is not interested in my subject or change the subject. Is benefic for both sides. And if he understand it.. good. If not.. That`s also good. Hi and Bye

[dr****]

Block them move on 2 the next

[ra****]

Excuse your self to the restroom and sneak out the door. Back door if necessary

[Kn****]

First examine yourself. See if it’s the subject or the person. On your own, look into the subject to see if you find it remotely interesting. If you do, maybe you can return to the subject with a new perspective. If they still make you scratch the inside of your skull until your nails break off, well it might be that you two don’t share the same “wavelength”. Of course if it’s the subject, then that’s an easy fix: steer them onto something less agonizing. Some are harder to steer than others but trial and error should serve you. There’s the parallel route: “that reminds of this other things that’s similar but less asphyxiating than whatever you’re droning on about”. The perpendicular route: “oh you know what I just thought of? Something else!” Abstraction and deconstruction also work. Good luck! Don’t forget to not be outright insulting!! But if you are, who gives a shit… 💩

[Deleted Member]

Can’t you just say “we’re not a good match”? There’s no reason to make them feel like sh*t

[me****]

1 hour ago, final_girl said:

Can’t you just say “we’re not a good match”? There’s no reason to make them feel like sh*t

I wish it was that easy! When a boys ego is hurt they lash out

[re****]

My recommendation jus say it a good person but not exactly what I'm wanting. End of story it keeps it respectful and straight to the point and if why is asked u can even say idk it's just not what I want

[Sm****]

1 hour ago, mermaidkat1990 said:

I wish it was that easy! When a boys ego is hurt they lash out

That boy could use his ego hurt a bit to grow into a respectful man. I get that rejection sucks, but lashing out is not a mature choice of response to a polite "this isn't working"