Why do I identify as primal

[Deleted Member]

I enjoy the power exchange, the rawness, the “another level of consciousness” I thrive in the competition and aggressiveness of the interaction. I want someone to earn my respect so that I can fully appreciate their power and not just expect it to be given without cause. I need someone to prove to me that they have my best interest in mind, and that yes they will take what they want but they will do so without harm and with full respect of myself. I’m not a masochist nor do I enjoy the sadist dynamic;however I enjoy the physical reminders of the time we shared. The next day bruises and rope burn on my flesh. The “hunt” or fore play the resulting scratching and biting from the passion of the moment. And in my eventual surrender the alpha will have my absolute attention and desire to please them no matter the surroundings. I will accept their desires as my own as I know they will notice my body language and react accordingly. I don’t have to worry about my own safety as that is part of their duties for me surrendering myself to them.
On the outside of sexual desires I fully believe in a “pack mentality” where everyone works together to support and protect each other. If anyone wants to come into the “pack” they must prove their worth of what they have to offer. There is one true leader that has everyone’s well-being in mind and will encourage and support those who need it.

Why do you? Or what do you think it is

[Mi****]

I love this

[ki****]

Valid

[sl****]

Class

[EllieEl]

🩷thank you for your insightful post

[Deleted Member]

Yes! That part is so important: wanting to submit, but there are such profound reasons why it needs to be earned... not in a sense where he is under a microscope for me to judge his "worthiness" but for the reasons you described. Trusting yourself over right away to someone who hasn't even had the chance to show you who he is, is not really different from self harm and can be dangerous. But beyond the physical and even with varying levels of masochism (or absence of it...don't have to be a masochist at all to enjoy being submissive)...emotional safety is pretty important. A submissive woman shouldn't be associated with automatically giving herself over to any person who shows up...& the same for male submissives

[Li****]

Literally for all of these reasons above! Well explained ✨️✨️💆🏼‍♀️💆🏼‍♀️

[PD****]

I believe it is something in us that when *** is used and passion along with it, a touch of aggression and lust. With that power exchange it gives us a surge of healthy adrenaline and leaks a different kind of dopamine out of our brains. It's a whole different kind of stimulation and arousal. I love that you are primal and this is my opinion on it .. 

[Deleted Member]

Holy shit I loved reading this! You put into words exactly what I’m hoping to achieve some day as a primal-hunter.
As for your question I think you’re asking, why does one have a desire to be a pack leader? I know I have felt a need to be a protector/leader of my group since I was a kid. I still remember having dreams after watching Fern Gully where I’m out in the forest and I saved the younger, smaller girls from my class from some unknown evil that was chasing us. It has always just been there, some intrinsic duty to keep those I love safe from harm, even to the point of self-sacrifice.
There’s even scientific evidence that your most traumatic experiences are passed down for 5-10 generations, so who we are could be heavily influenced by what people as far back as the 1700’s experienced. Our ancestors were presented with life or death situations involving their family and their choices could literally be embedded in our DNA.
Or not, who knows. Science is for NERDS

[Ki****]

Sexy af

[Th****]

Agree with this totally! Any D/S play needs a level of trust and respect, submission is a gift to give and to be earned - whether it's "***fully" taken in a primal play rough setting, or given willingly in a different setting, the specifics of the dynamic don't always matter, the concept across the spectrum is a similar one. I saw on another forum recently "having me is a privilege, not your birth rite" and I couldn't agree more! 🙌🏻

Primal is always fun, but my safety - physical and mental comes first, you need to earn my trust!

[Ro****]

Yes this! With the right person being primal prey is a sort of transcending in connection. So much more fun when I know that the slightest signal ( may it be body language or other communication) can be noticed by the aggressor and my best interest is in mind both physically or mentally. Only then can I fully give myself in trusted submission entirely. Just knowing they are a safety net is absolutely freeing. May you all find that unique freedom.

[et****]

This is veeery well said and I as primal hunter I completely agree with your perspective. Lovely!