Advice on cuckolding

[No****]

Speaking from experience:
I think that your husband wants to see you fucking another man. Unless he hinted on it, there isn't any risk of male on male activities. Discuss it with him to dot the "i"s. It's certainly not wrong if you enjoy it. It's part of the experience. Marriage wise, it should bring you closer as it will make him happy that you're doing something for him...

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, ExposingCorruption13 said:

Answer 1: he is hella serious...like Jay said he is fishing to get your reaction...he is totally down for it just wants to know your thoughts without specifically asking.

Answer 2: (a)in my opinion I think you may be reading into it a little bit. Unless you think your husband is bi? (my first thought about having 2 men with me is not if something is going to happen between them). So maybe find out first if he is bi or strictly straight and that will answer your question about having to worry. (B) If your not ok with it just say so. (C) You stop it immediately...FUCK his fantasy there isn't any taking one for the team in these situations.

Answer 3: that depends on how it goes and how open and honest you are willing to be with each other. So the only answer to that question really depends on how strong your marriage is and how much trust you have in one another.

Answer 4: what if you enjoy the sex? Um ya better!!! No it isn't wrong when it's something you both have agreed on...you think your husband would feel guilty for having another pussy on his cock especially when you are present? FUCK NO!!!

Answer 5: Draw the line at your comfort level but be open to new things! Hope this helps

Thank you! I love your raw, straight from the gut response. I will certainly sit down with him and have an open conversation. 

[Deleted Member]

If you decide to do it, you could have some fun with it and lock him in a chastity cage too. Just something to ponder 🤔🤔🤔

[Ta****]

Oh! One other thing… If you go forward, pick someone with REAL experience. The saddest thing I ever saw as the Master Dom of a dungeon club was watching a woman try to get some 25 year old guy hard in the club. Performance anxiety hits the boldest young man. 😂 Talk is cheap. 😂

[no****]

You need to draw the line immediately. He's not respecting your boundaries at all. If it is not something you want and don't feel comfortable doing it, then don't. As you said it's his fantasy, however, if he is bringing it up in a passive aggressive way, it feels like he's trying to bait you into doing it and may turn it against you at a later time.

If it is something he wants to do then you need to ask him straight out what he is hinting at. It will drive you crazy if the behavior continues. If you choose to look into it, do your research, find someone you feel comfortable with and make him write something out and sign it with what his expectations are and you do the same. If you are vanilla him pushing you into something you are not sure about is not okay.

There is no shame in enjoying pleasure as you would with anyone you're being intimate with. It's something you should enjoy, as someone else said you could cause more harm than good if you're not in a good headspace. You could have performance anxiety or feel like you have done something wrong when you haven't.

I probably sound harsh but I wouldn't take this decision lightly. But just make a straight conversation and make sure you are truly okay with it for your own well being. Fishing or not it should be a mutual decision.

[Malli]

I would echo ‘nothanksplease80’, very eloquently put btw.

I was cuckolded without consent and it broke my relationship. I had fundamentally lost respect for her. I would suggest you two communicate explicitly and work out what’s the right move.

[Mi****]

Please, I think you should bring the topic out in the open make sure everyone is on the same page set what boundaries and rules to keep you guys comfortable. this isn’t the type of thing you want to guess at. Maybe next time he brings it up. You wouldn’t fuck another guy in front of me? You say, well maybe if you wanted me to. Then see where that takes you.

[ChastitySub4Use]

I was married for 25 years to a women that I was cuckold to. it started great, wedding night they consumated our marriage in front of me, i was happy with it, sadly few years later she started having affairs and didnt tell me details and I didnt like it, not the fact she was having sex with another guy, just the secracy which caused us to split. I was also in chastity for 11 years of our marriage, loved that when was there to watch, hated it when she started going out and excluding me. The school committee or gardening clubs wore a bit thin after a while when I knew what she was doing. So my answer is yes it can work well but you need full and openess in that type of arragement. 

 

[ja****]

You do whatever feels right for you 😉

[Pe****]

50 minutes ago, huos341 said:

You do whatever feels right for you 😉

Worst advice possible. ***s and r4pists follow this advice. I didn't read all the comments, but what few I read are immeasurably better than this one.
Be open and honest with your partner, always. Otherwise, you shouldn't be with them.

[Ca****]

Previously been in two cuckold relationships, in full time chastity.. the key is communication and knowing limits

[ge****]

Think you need to take a step backwards OP and firstly do some self-analysis - ask yourself if this is something *you* want to do for *you* and think you'd get something out of it - if the answer is no, then the next time your partner brings it up, then shut him down and tell him it's not for you and you'd prefer he didn't raise it again. 

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If the answer is yes, then it's time for an open and honest conversation with him, to both understand his fantasy and what he would like to get from it, and put your side of things and what you would like to happen. It's also key to ensure you're both mentally prepared to take the step, and that your relationship is strong enough to take the strains (which will come) of taking that step - fantasy is one thing, reality quite another - many men fantasise about their partners being with another man/woman, but when it comes to the reality of it, most cannot take the stress and anxiety it can cause.

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If/when you're 100% aligned on the above, you need to establish very clear ground rules between you about what is/isn't allowed - what you each expect from the situation - things to consider are what kind of sex is ok, whether he expects any part in it at all, including interaction with the other person, whether he expects *** as part of his fantasy, whether you'd be comfortable with him exploring any bisexual side of it, whether he remains in the room during any play, if not where you are allowed to meet others, and whether it includes overnight stays etc and much much more besides. Also something many overlook which is the needs/desires of the third person involved, it's important to consider and respect those and not just see the third person as a toy to fulfill your fantasies.

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Only once you have done all of the above should you even consider proceeding to actually acting on any of this.

[Deleted Member]

Women reading into stuff. Seems he was pretty clear and trust you not to do that

[Deleted Member]

13 hours ago, gemini_man said:

Think you need to take a step backwards OP and firstly do some self-analysis - ask yourself if this is something *you* want to do for *you* and think you'd get something out of it - if the answer is no, then the next time your partner brings it up, then shut him down and tell him it's not for you and you'd prefer he didn't raise it again. 

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If the answer is yes, then it's time for an open and honest conversation with him, to both understand his fantasy and what he would like to get from it, and put your side of things and what you would like to happen. It's also key to ensure you're both mentally prepared to take the step, and that your relationship is strong enough to take the strains (which will come) of taking that step - fantasy is one thing, reality quite another - many men fantasise about their partners being with another man/woman, but when it comes to the reality of it, most cannot take the stress and anxiety it can cause.

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If/when you're 100% aligned on the above, you need to establish very clear ground rules between you about what is/isn't allowed - what you each expect from the situation - things to consider are what kind of sex is ok, whether he expects any part in it at all, including interaction with the other person, whether he expects *** as part of his fantasy, whether you'd be comfortable with him exploring any bisexual side of it, whether he remains in the room during any play, if not where you are allowed to meet others, and whether it includes overnight stays etc and much much more besides. Also something many overlook which is the needs/desires of the third person involved, it's important to consider and respect those and not just see the third person as a toy to fulfill your fantasies.

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Only once you have done all of the above should you even consider proceeding to actually acting on any of this.

Thank you!

[Pr****]

I'd just like to add again, roleplay and fantasy are great opportunities to explore this. You can share about the kinks you may already have while indulging his. Many men who haven't experienced it really won't know how they're gonna feel until they've cum and have to face the reality of their new dynamic with a sober mind. Especially if they're at home or sitting watching you take it for another 30 minutes while they wait. Dose makes the poison, so titrate yourselves. You may confront feelings you didn't know either which is just as important to consider.

 

I've seen beautiful couples rot and fracture from the strain. It can be be super fun and liberating! You do really have take your time and savor the journey.

 

By mastering the fantasy and putting in a little creativity, you can feel a lot of the same kinky pleasure that comes with that fetish without the logistics, planning, vetting, and processing of thirds and bulls. Swinger parties are an excellent way to start, it's equal and you both get to make friends not just collect bodies.

 

You can experience ENM lightly and plan fun things with the couple. Some of the friends my ex and I had enjoyed sending the girls together to me, then him one at a time in the same evening.

 

You can have games and all kinds of fun. It'll be well worth the time and really help you both acclimate into that lifestyle. Not to mention have support if/when you both need it as you grapple with any ripples along the way.

 

Best of luck! 🙏

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[Be****]

You both need to have a clear conversation on what you both want and willing to try.
From there, start slow. Negotiate and set rules.

[Em****]

The only advice you need is to talk to him. If he can't stop playing games and say what he wants, he's not ready for it.

[Bu****]

This discussion is fascinating. Based on what Jess wrote: I'd say he is way curious about it. I can't picture a husband bringing it up if he wasn't. Also, there does seem to be a bit of "I dare you." to the way he brought it up.

My sense is that Jess is interested / intrigued by the idea or wouldn't be entertaining the thought or asking for advice.

I'd be curious how his fantasies line up with yours about how 🤔 it would play out.

Is hubz in a chair 💺 and not allowed to get up? Is he naked or partially or fully dressed ? Is he tied to the chair ? Does the action stop if he gets up ? Is he allowed to touch himself during ? Is he going to get to duck you afterwards ? Lick you ? Get a handy or BJ ?

I don't think you have to start out screwing a stranger. You could just let the new guy touch or squeeze your breast in front of hubz and gauge both of your reactions. I would think he is fantasizing being made to watch. Touch the other guy and watch hubz reaction.

If you all take it slow like that and all understand you're just testing the water; I think it'll be ok and probably quite fun.

Picking the third party... that part is going to be interesting.

[Deleted Member]

On 7/22/2025 at 5:59 AM, HatfieldMaster said:

Hi Jess,

1) Have you actually asked him whether he fantasies about being cuckolded? Ask him whether the thought of seeing you with another man horrifies him, scares him or excites him.

2) what makes you think there would be male on male action? Is your husband gay/bi? If not, then you have nothing to worry about. Any cuckold scenario should include clear lines and boundaries that all 3 people are comfortable with.

3) Yes. If you both enjoy it or both regret it then it will probably make your marriage better. The problem occurs if one of you enjoys it but the other doesn't and you end up with conflicting goals going forward.

4) Not at all. Why would it be wrong if you enjoy it and he enjoys watching it? Win-win.

5) The lines are drawn upon agreement/negotiation with your husband, and the acceptance of those lines by the 3rd party.

6) You're obviously (and naturally) nervous about it, but are you also intrigued and excited at the thought of it? If not, then it's probably not for you. But only you can decide that, and only following a fully open and honest discussion with your husband. Bottom line is that both of you have to be in to it and there have clear rules/limits.
 

Sensible advice.

 

[li****]

Coming late to the party but I need to answer cause I'm flabbergasted.
1. You ask him
2. You're not supposed to tolerate anything that you don't want to happen
3. For the worse. You're going to feel disgusted afterwards, since you clearly have a communication problem and you're not even considering what pleases YOU
4. The point of doing it is that you enjoy yourself. Why on earth would you do it for him if you're supposed to be the dominant person in that dynamic?
A lot of these so-called submissive men with cuckolding fantasies aren't submissive at all. They just like the idea of using their girlfriend as a personal porn actress, so be careful.
You're clearly not educated in BDSM and it doesn't sound like you have strong boundaries. You can't participate in this.

[ki****]

September 12, liliththedivine said:

Coming late to the party but I need to answer cause I'm flabbergasted.
1. You ask him
2. You're not supposed to tolerate anything that you don't want to happen
3. For the worse. You're going to feel disgusted afterwards, since you clearly have a communication problem and you're not even considering what pleases YOU
4. The point of doing it is that you enjoy yourself. Why on earth would you do it for him if you're supposed to be the dominant person in that dynamic?
A lot of these so-called submissive men with cuckolding fantasies aren't submissive at all. They just like the idea of using their girlfriend as a personal porn actress, so be careful.
You're clearly not educated in BDSM and it doesn't sound like you have strong boundaries. You can't participate in this.

Absolutely perfectly said. For me the communication and trust is what makes this dynamic so amazing. I love how it puts the females pleasure first. People using it as glorified porn is not the true definition of the dynamic.

[Deleted Member]

I’d always put you first. If he’s hinting he should as well. But you do you. Don’t agree to anything you’re not comfortable with.